Here is my stumbling block. My ex is still a cold asshole to me. In every email it is as if he is addressing a stranger. In person, he acts more coldly than he would to a stranger. At pickups/dropoffs he doesn't even leave the car or acknowledge my presence if I'm helping the kids to the door. Wifetress on the other hand is all nicey and will go out of her way to be communicative. It is helpful. I get the feeling that ex would rather me go through his wife, he includes her on all emails and everything is "we" and "us" in his language.
My stumbling block, I feel like he should step up and do his part to clean up the shitstorm of a mess his A created which would be acting just decent around me. I also resent having to go through wifetress for little things. The kids (specifically my dd) like her. I *should* be happy that they get along with her and she seems to pay them a lot of attention.
She is a trashy whore
She played her part in the destruction of my family
I really think I need to put on my big girl panties and just work with her instead of my asshole ex. It would be easier and probably more pleasant for all. And it would probably benefit my kids because it would make things easier.
I just hate, hate, hate giving her any feeling that since we act all nice, what she did wasn't really that bad. And boy, do I not want my kids to think I am ok with what they (ex and whore) did.
And I know that I could be an even bigger person and start acting nicey to asshole. Hell, if he didn't feel so bad about what he did he wouldn't be such an ass right now. And that too would be better for the kids....
I am nice. I greet both/either of them. I smile etc. I didn't at first, but I have for almost 2 yrs now.