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libertyrocks
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He doesn't deserve my kindness, my unconditional love. I walked through the pits of fire to grab him by the hand and rescue him from his own personal hell, he tells me. Says I saved his life. Literally and figuratively. I guess I'm the KISA. hahaha. Joan of Arc style with some armour and a sword. I'm such a dork. :)

But, now what? He's an amazing, sober individual that's part of respectable society again?

I can't help but feel his actions have consequences. But what exactly is that? That we're both in IC/MC, 12 step/AA/Al-anon for the rest of our lives?? Now what? Great. We're normal people now? Normal family going on vacation this week?

I think I'm having trouble checking in to a hotel this week. As, that's where his PA's took place...

Fuck, man. Fuck. It sucks to be me right now. I mean, he's really trying and doing a good job of it. Aside from a slip up here and there, he's a completely different person. It just sucks.

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:10 PM, August 19th (Monday)]


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((liberty)))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25776 | Registered: Aug 2011
libertyrocks
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Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

:), I need you guys.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe you're in the dip right now. Sometimes when my WH is doing everything right it scares me because I want to let down my guard, but fight against it. It is such a hard balance to find and then throw in two, three, or a hundred steps back. It is exhausting.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
krazy8516
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes when my WH is doing everything right it scares me because I want to let down my guard, but fight against it. It is such a hard balance to find and then throw in two, three, or a hundred steps back. It is exhausting.

We could be twins today, Crazy. I am relating to everything you say

::hugs:: LR! If your WS is truly remorseful, his consequence is that he has to live with what he's done to you for the rest of his life. No chance for parole, no time off for good behavior.


me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."


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