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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read a lot of recommendations for books to read. I have read several. I wasted so much time reading books on how to work on marriage, how to deal with infidelity etc.

I can say I feel empowered by the book recommended on here so often: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing, by Susan Anderson.

In the past couple of weeks I have been reading this, learning about so much of what I was dealing with. And it is helping "me", its not about STBXH and his issues etc.

I have gained more clarity in my emotions, reactions and my personal gotchas with this book. I truly wished it was one of the first books I read when this all happened.

I am not anywhere near recovered, but by golly, I do have hope!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 785 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
SBB
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Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have had to keep putting it down because it stirred up so much in me (in a good but scary way).

I've been mulling over the first chapters for several months now and I have felt a seismic shift within me. It feels good and quite a lot less scary.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
imwideawake
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That book helped me so much that I traveled a fewl hundred miles to attend a weekend work shop by the author. She was a therapist and going through similar issues realized her methods didn't touch the pain. She dug deep and came up with this notion that abandonment is a human condition. We all fear it. The fear drives us to do some crazy stuff. Great book!


Together 17 years.
Married 15
Me: BW, now 44
Him WH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 19, 17, & 15
Divorced 12/04/12

Posts: 895 | Registered: Mar 2009
hangingontohope7
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just started this book over the weekend. I can't put it down. I've been utilizing the techniques to "stay in the moment." They are extremely helpful when I wake up in the middle of the night, filled with anxiety and I can't go back to sleep.

I'm so glad that I saw the recommendation for this book here on the site. And, that others seem to have such a positive experience by reading it.


Me: BW
DDay #1 Tried R
DDAY #2 Divorcing

Burn everything love then burn the ashes.


Posts: 247 | Registered: Jun 2008
katiesmom
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After hearing so many positive reviews about this book, I got a copy last week and have started reading it.

From what I have read so far, I think it's going to be a huge help.


Posts: 70 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Kentucky
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This book helped me more than anything else...it's the one I recommend to everyone.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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