Good for you for sticking up for yourself and realizing that you and DD deserve a whole lot more.
then has a pity party night shortly after where he goes off and cries and claims he is trying his hardest but I can never ever be happy.
No! No no no no no Fuck NO!!!
Emotional Abuse to Nth degree!!!!
Run... Just get out now before you're in too deep.
My second husband was a nice guy. A real sweetheart.... Until "I Do". Then he turned, almost instantly into the most cruel, abusive, evil Son of a Bitch on the planet. I endured 4 years of misery with that Fucktard.
Don't do that to yourself. Don't do that to your DD. I was lucky, I didn't have any kids yet.
The other very possible cause, of course, is depression. His exhaustion and reluctance to get up in the morning could be symptomatic of that. Perhaps the major commitment of marriage has scared him a little, after-the-fact, and brought on the sort of crisis that is common in middle age, where one asks oneself, "Is this all there is to life?"
I think that you are right to insist on some very serious and honest talking. I really hope that things will work out well for you.
[This message edited by Cally60 at 8:38 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)]
He always does this...listens to what I say and then has a pity party night shortly after where he goes off and cries and claims he is trying his hardest but I can never ever be happy.
I'm confused. He did this before marriage? And you married him anyway?
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
I am at my wit's end with the whole thing.
It's been a few days since you last posted on this thread. How are you doing? What's been going on?
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
The sex issue has been an up and down thing for the last year. We will go month with everything fine, and then we will go anywhere from 1-3 months with disaster. It seems to correspond with him being stressed out at work. I get it, he hates his job. I talked to him about the sex thing and how it makes me feel when he isn't interested and doesn't care for a month.
I wrote down a schedule for driving DD to and from daycare and he agreed to it. He apologized for arguing with me, and said he "misunderstood" what I saw saying, and thought I was trying to make him drive her everyday. I let it go for now, but it will be discussed later.
Finally, I did some research and provided him with the names of three counselors, and told him I wanted him to pick one, or do research and find someone else entirely. He argued and fussed, but finally picked one. We have an appointment scheduled for next week.
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."