Something in him has snapped the past couple of days.
possibly some MAJOR defogging happening in him now. And I imagine every WS probably reacts differently to de-fogging. He is becoming beligerant and verbally abusive.
Which he will no doubt feel great regret for in about 24 hours, but that's his problem now.
What is it about real consequences that makes them pissed at the BS? Why does he think he and she will just slink away unnoticed and unscathed?
Yes, he is humiliated now. (I know just what that feels like) And now he has to do damage control. Big time. And he feels like an asshole in front of so many. And now he has to deal with the fact that he mayhave passed an STD to someone, one that often isn't curable and can have long term consequences. But that fact doesn't bother him. Its that he LOOKS like a real jerk.
He has to accept his reputation is in the dumps right now.
OW has to accept that she may have some health consequences possibly now.
They both have to accept that I really wasn't their rival or their problem. They created their own mess. I am not at fault because I brought things to light.
OW also has to accept the fact that WH is a compulsive liar, emotionally abusive and now she is getting her fair share of it, and he never honestly, truly cared for her other than in a superficial way.
The thing is, they can both recover and do better as people in the future if they choose. I don't think they are the scum of the earth, I think they made horrible, painful choices and have to deal with the fallout.
Its part of maturing, of gaining wisdom. Its part of developing real empathy for other people. They can learn from it and do better next time, or they can choose to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.