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User Topic: Taking Inventory – an exercise in gratitude
NoTriangles
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Member # 35985
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I live here, in my sanctuary by the sea, where the pups and I walk every morning as the sun rises over the ocean. You, Fuckstick, were forced to move back to suburbia where you, by your own words, feel like a fish out of water.

I bought the Beach Castle after the ghost of you chased me out of my home that I had so generously shared with you. The Castle has proven to be an excellent investment and has appreciated in value 20% in these past two years. Moreover, I am now under contract on what used to be our home. I will cash out over six figures and will have tax advantages from selling it as an investment property. You are now stuck back in your former home for probably two more years and you are at least $100k underwater. You had to give up your ego-fulfilling bachelor pad to move back into YOUR haunted house with furniture you bought on Craig’s List. If, in two years, you are ultimately able to short sell it, you will likely get stuck with a deficiency judgment. And even if you somehow escape the judgment, the loss will not be deductible and you will have to report the debt forgiveness as taxable income.

I enjoy my 15 minute commute over the intracoastal waterway, via the boulevard, generally around, oh maybe 8:30-ish, with light traffic and usually a little reggae music. Meanwhile, you crawl 45 minutes through stop and go traffic on surface streets, past the WalMart and the Chik Fil-A, until you get to the semi-truck-infested interstate.

I kept my true and healthy friends and jettisoned the traitorous people you surrounded yourself with. Your manic-depressive, MLC-instigating, running buddy was found dead in his bed of an overdose of booze and prescription meds.

I have reclaimed, as my own: The Sandbar, Costa Rica, West Palm, Fort Lauderdale, South Beach, Crystal River, snorkeling in the Keys as well as in the Dominican F***ing Republic. I have explored Paris, London, Brussels, Berlin, Rome and Florence. Troutface took you to ….. Everglades City.

I have taken the time and energy to heal myself, properly process my pain and have thus regained my strength and confidence. You have chosen to try to band-aid your brokenness with a ‘girlfriend’ who you have attempted to break up with at least 5 times, who you don’t want to have children with, who you don’t want to live with, who you don’t want to marry and who makes you feel like you are hanging out with your cousin. You feel ‘stuck’ and like you are ‘just existing’.

So how’s it all working out for you, sunshine?

As for myself, I’m feeling pretty damn good.

So, GFY.


Me: Finding my Sunlight
Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

Posts: 1252 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness
Sparkles
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Member # 39901
Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this!

I hope to feel the same way some day!


Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: In a better place
CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

❤❤❤❤❤
Awesome.


Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Posts: 505 | Registered: Jan 2013
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOVE this!!!!!!

Go NT! Go NT! Go NT! Go NT!

If SI had a Hero of The Day - today would be yours!

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5061 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad you're enjoying life, NT.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20141 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
AlwaysBeenStrong
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Member # 39888
Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to be in happiness land with you!


BW: 41 (me)
Divorced soon.
Moving forward.
Pre Nursing Student
Getting a Do over at 42

Posts: 125 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Lonelyville
Housefulloflove
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Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

<3 this!


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Standing ovation!!!
Love it!!!!!!!!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6440 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this! STBX and I lived near the beach in St. Pete early on our marriage. You just made me remember FL so fondly. I just gave to erase the fact that the Gnat was with me.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 887 | Registered: Mar 2013
sleepless34
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Member # 40274
Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG I LOVE THIS!

This is what I want for me too. It gives me hope.

Thank you!


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have taken the time and energy to heal myself, properly process my pain and have thus regained my strength and confidence. You have chosen to try to band-aid your brokenness with a ‘girlfriend’ who you have attempted to break up with at least 5 times, who you don’t want to have children with, who you don’t want to live with, who you don’t want to marry and who makes you feel like you are hanging out with your cousin. You feel ‘stuck’ and like you are ‘just existing’.

Rico to a T. 'Cept they are living together in a sense of real desperation.

Rock on with your bad self!

AJ's MOM

[This message edited by ajsmom at 1:12 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21048 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
krazy8516
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post made me smile. Today, that is a huge compliment.

Good for you, NT!


me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."


Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fucking awesome!

Amazing post.


Posts: 1269 | Registered: Oct 2009
cryingdaily
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If SI had a Hero of The Day - today would be yours!

YES! AMEN! Sing it sister!!!


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14400 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome post girl!

Love it, One day I can post one like this too!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 177 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
tryingagain74
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Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*standing ovation*

Super. Awesome. I love posts like this!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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