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User Topic: Reconciliation when there is no justice?
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is no "justice", the best you can hope for is "just us".

Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.

Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Justice lies within. Knowing YOU didn't trade yourself, your morals, your integrity. My wife looks on the mirror everyday and sees the injustice of trading herself for a cheap form of validation.

D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1909 | Registered: Nov 2010
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got sidetracked and posted before I was done. :eyeroll:

What I wanted to leave my post with, was that for me, "justice" was my WS realizing the horrible thing he had done and realizing *who* he was doing the horrible thing with.

It also helped me that living in a small town, her and her husband's underground lifestyle was completely outed for what it was. Not to mention she lost *everything* from it too. While they are back in their own reconciliation, they had major debt before they separated; I can't even imagine what debt they have now.

So, for me, I'm getting justice on both ends even though an outsider might not see it that way.

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 17 years
2 children
2 DDays

Posts: 255 | Registered: Aug 2013
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Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can get justice in your own way, kill them with kindness and show them that you are the bigger, better person.
In my case my fWH and the OW were so starved for attention, they couldn't see straight. When I talked to the OW over the phone, I was as nice to her as I could be, and I told her that, in order to get the answers I needed. They both claim that neither one initiated it, that "it just happened". I told my H that I wasn't going to get revenge but I do expect him to be the H I deserve. Letting them know that they're actions weren't going to kill me, that they're sad little A wasn't going to dictate my future and that living and having a good life won't end with my M will hopefully show them that they're destructive behaviors will leave them sad, lonely and even more broken... Instead of me.
You shouldn't act like nothings wrong but do things that make you happy, be a little selfish and dont lower the bar for anything. Good luck

[This message edited by DoneWithLove at 11:10 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]

BW: Me (24)
FWH: Him (24) Jlaz1988ws
Together 11/12/06
2 sons, ages 5 and 1
Married 9/29/12
EA turned PA with OW/ coworker for 2- 4 weeks
D day 4/20/13
TT 4/20/13 - 7/30/13
"R" 5/3/13

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