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User Topic: Part of the reason to Why? Very interesting!
Offhispedestal
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found this article and I must say that A LOT made sense ! I don't feel that this is the only answer to WHY they did what they did. But I understand now why my H became the asshole he did, why he gave me ridiculous answers....it made me crazy..I was always like "you expect me to accept your BS answer?"

Please read!

http://www.examiner.com/article/third-stage-of-an-affair-discovery-addiction


ME-44
WH-45
Married 24


2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)

In R


Posts: 639 | Registered: Jun 2011
krazy8516
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very interesting.

Thanks, Offhispedestal!


me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."


Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
Offhispedestal
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I read the second half of this article it just clicked. Everything I read is EXACTLY how my H acted. The stupid justifications, the blame, His explanations only made sense to him!


ME-44
WH-45
Married 24


2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)

In R


Posts: 639 | Registered: Jun 2011
Pass
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like how they use the terms "Loyal Spouse" and "Disloyal Spouse". They are much more active terms for what actually happened.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2080 | Registered: Jan 2013
myperfectlife
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bingo...sounds exactly like my WH. If that stage is finally over maybe my marriage can survive.
I am waiting to find out.


I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

Posts: 452 | Registered: Jul 2013
ILINIA
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with the "loyal" and "disloyal" terms and like how we can be the "hero" of the marriage...it gives us a positive term vs a negative

[This message edited by ILINIA at 6:18 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]


Entering R slowly and cautiously...

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