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User Topic: OW was at my front door!!
AStar
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am shaking so badly I can hardly breathe or type this.
OW bitch was just at my front door! WTF!!
The door bell rang and I answered it. I was so shocked, I think I just stared, shocked.
She said something like: Sorry to show up, she had heard WH had a car accident and she was wondering if she could she him because she "cared" about her "friend".
I don't remember clearly but it only happened half an hour ago!
I can hear myself saying: if you ever set foot on my property again I will call the police.
Then the door banged shut.
OMG, what is wrong with this woman? How dare she come to my house?!! Damn bitch!!
WH has NC with OW. Why would he want to see her? How dare she even come to my house?!
I can't believe she came to my house!! Wanting to see WH. WTF?!! Will this nightmare never end?



Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. She has a lot of nerve. That's some sense of entitlement and sense of self-importance to think she should be allowed to see him just because she "cares" about her friend. Just because she cares doesn't give her any rights and certainly doesn't mean he does.


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


Posts: 3968 | Registered: Sep 2005
shatteredheart7
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very ballsy of her! I would have rammed my fist down her throat... but that's just me. I have actually prayed for her to show up on my doorstep just so I could. Self defense right? I felt threatened on my property...

(((((((AStar)))))))


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

shatteredheart7 we think alike


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my state, you can send a letter of no tresspass certified to that person.

If they come on your property again you can shoot them (I live in the South ) or you can call the police and they will be charged with tresspassing.

Go down to the police station today or tomorrow and ask what you should do.

This really goes to show how delusional and sick in the head the OPs are.


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 1973 | Registered: Jan 2012
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't believe you didn't slug her. Good for you.


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
nolight
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Careful she's probably going o try and make contact another way...

Posts: 464 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yikes, that is ballsy.

I'd see what recourse I have legally. File order of protection, if need be.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 731 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You handled it well for being caught off guard! Bravo!!!


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 855 | Registered: Jun 2013
confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd have answered the door with my gun in hand..and told her to get the fuck off my property.

You have a bunny boiler on your hands.

How did she know about the accident if she is NC with him?


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7144 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
ThisHell
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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How did she know about the accident if she is NC with him?

This...


Me:BW, 34/Him:BH, 34/ 3 boys, 5,8,12
4ddays, now Divorced
We are not in Kansas anymore

Posts: 271 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: NC
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ballsy YESSS!! How did she find out?
Within a half hr of it happening? Sounds like they have a mutual contact person


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4738 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
AStar
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Accident was on Saturday. She was at my house yesterday. I don't know if she saw it in the newspaper or heard from mutual friend.
When I think about this b!tch coming to my house, my blood boils. I so wish I reacted better and slugged her. Guess I was unprepared to see her brazenly standing at my door, I froze. I spoke to WH and he didnt want to see her so that is a relief. The cops will go out to see her and warn her off- officially. Luckily my D attorney is applying for a restraining order on my behalf. I don't have the energy to do it.

[This message edited by AStar at 7:19 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)]


Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
Sadwife222
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Evil  Posted: 7:26 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I so wish OW would come to my door. Thank you for sharing this. What it's done is help me formulate a plan should I be lucky enough to find the bitch standing on my porch...


Me BW, Him WH
DD #1, caught 4/12/13
DD #2, tells me the whole truth, 5/21/13
DD #3, TT until 8/9/13 then full disclosure w/timeline
DD #4, 8/26/13, OW texts me more info, he tells me the whole truth
DD # 5, 9/11/13, he tells me the whole truth??

Posts: 130 | Registered: Jul 2013
PhoenixStorm
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, I froze too in a similar situation. Maybe this is a a body's mechanism to deal with the object of your fury and practically a PSTD. Kinda like going into shock. But if you don't freeze up, somebody's going to get hurt and you're going to jail!
I personally thought I was having a panic attack! I literally had to go sit down afterwards and calm down. It felt like what a heart attack must feel like.

I wasn't in a position to do anything (at work,) but if that'd happen to me ----at my home---(ugh! no wonder you're so furious!) I'd get a restraining order. Wow, The freaking GALL!


BS UNSUSPECTING FOOL 54
WH BECAUSE I'M THE MAN AND I GET TO DO WHAT I WANT 46
OW The weakest of the pack 41
DDay: 2/20/12 The most out of control day of my life
Trying to R - TRYING
UPDATE 5-10-14 OVER WITH IT!
DDAY2 5-10-14

Posts: 72 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: In a state
AStar
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can so relate PhoenixStorm. I just froze- totally unexpected reaction. I had a panic attack when I closed the door. I couldn't breathe, I was shaking, my heart was racing, I couldn't see clearly, I thought I was about to die.
I was so upset afterwards. I so regret not hitting her... I know it is the wrong thing to have done it but it would have felt good. Opportunity lost, bloody cow!


Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 3:06 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How are you feeling AStar? I know you have been through so much in just the past week, so just been thinking bout you..

"Head still fuzzy" is a perfectly fine answer

Just wanted to check in..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2005 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
I.will.survive
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Default  Posted: 5:07 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I know EXACTLY how you feel because THIS is how I found out about their affair.

The OW rang my doorbell at 9:30pm with her daughter and granddaughter to tell me she had been having an affair with my husband for 2 years and now he was cheating on HER.

I froze like you did! Total mind shutdown. After slamming the door, I had a mini panic attack myself. I remember falling to my knees and sobbing.

Then I called HIS parents. Son of a bitch. And a ballsy bitch with no class!

So yes, I totally understand your shakiness and anger at not punching the shit out of her while she dared stand at your front door.

((hugs))


Posts: 530 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast
AStar
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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks so much for the concern, ButterflyGirl. I really appreciate it. As well as having the SI folks to see me through what feels like insanity. (I have to wonder if its all a bad dream or a cheap rate movie... It's unreal.)
I am doing much better today. Weird, but I am calm and relaxed. Took a few days off work and I feel so much better. No clarity on WH yet. I don't know how I feel about him, but personally I feel so much more positive.

Wow, I.will.survive!! That is a horror story. I am so sorry that you experienced it. For the life of me I can not imagine why OW shows up at your door... Utter contempt for you (and me) is what makes sense.
I think the freezing and panic attack is just self-preservation mode. Probably so that WE don't end up in jail. I know its wrong, but if I could do it again, I wish I socked her one. Please take care of yourself.

Hugs and strength to us all.


Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow that is a brave or brazen OW. Sorry you had to deal with it.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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