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User Topic: Movie last night
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JM and I watched a movie together last night. (Trouble With the Curve w/Clint Eastwood, Justin Timberlake and Amy Adams)

Every couple of months, we rent 5 or 6 movies, and usually we end up not watching any of them all the way because of infidelity popping up unannounced and uninvited. This was the first one I can remember in a LONG time that had nothing offensive... no infidelity, no nudity, no gratuitous sex, no foul language...it was a really good movie and a really good time.

Even so, there were a couple of scenes that were very difficult/triggery for different reasons. There was a bar scene that hit JM really hard because of an incident in his past. And there was a flashback scene of potential CSA that was averted by the father that was really hard for me. The bar scene was first, and I paused the movie for a few moments while JM recovered. It was the first time I have seen the PTSD symptoms in over a year and a half. But he recovered quickly and was okay. When the CSA scene popped up, I was shaken, but drew strength from JM.

We were able to laugh about the fact that there was something for both of us. As the movie drew to a close, I said, "Well, this movie is my favorite movie ever because, even though there were a couple of tough spots, there was one subject that was completely avoided and I appreciate that immensely." JM said he was thinking the exact same thing.

It was so nice to just be together, support each other through the hard stuff and enjoy a nice story. Those are the times that make me know R was the right decision for us.

If you like baseball and want a nice film to watch without IF triggers, check this one out.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
doesitgetbetter
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I watched that one too. I swear it alluded to infidelity somehow, like the dad was not faithful while he was on the road or something. It's been a while, and it didn't bother me, but I was sure I heard it.

But it is a good movie. :-)


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008
SmallButStrong
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So funny, we can never watch movies anymore, either. We used to love movies! I couldn't even get through "A Time To Kill" the other night because of the almost-affair between Sandra Bullock and Matthew McCaughnohey (sp?). And we thought that was surely safe!

Some of our favorite movies are all time will be forbidden now. Just more to add to the list of losses.

I don't like baseball, otherwise I'd be all over that movie!


Me: BW
Him: WH
Married 13 years at time of D-Day, 2 small children
D-day 1: 8/16/12 (told it was EA only)
D-day 2: 9/22/12 (the OW confessed to the truth and exposed the PA)
12 month affair, 10 months PA
Today: In MC and IC, attempting R

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