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User Topic: And we're back to everything being my fault.
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NOT surprised. Disappointed yes.

We had had a really productive talk where I felt like we actually heard each other for the first time in a long time. So, I started entertaining a sliver of hope again. MISTAKE!!!

I know people. I really, really do. I am doing the same thing we all do. I'm trying to hang on to that one sliver of hope that our asshats will change.

Not going to happen. I need to detach. I need NC. I am going to have to tell my DD that we just can't be friends yet. I need time to process this.

It stops when I say it stops. I need to say it stops.


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 917 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox

Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It seems like every time we hung our hopes on the thinnest of slivers, they end up burying it in our backs like a shard of broken glass...

I'm sorry. Hang in there.

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs, started 1994? - never stopped
Kids - 22, 20, 17
M Dissolved 2013!!!

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare

Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, August 21st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahh. I too we'll understand as I too am the recipient of "the blame game"

It has always been my fault....
Disgusting on many levels, but hear you.

Stay strong! You are so worth it!

BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

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