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User Topic: Well, hot damn, he's doing it again, seven years later.
scarredforever
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so done. He is on POF, Plenty of Fish, for those of you who don't know.

I am just so done with this.


"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"


Posts: 1058 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
doesitgetbetter
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Member # 18429
Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry!!!!!


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008
Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ouch...I'm sorry.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 4003 | Registered: Dec 2011
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im so sorry.

(((((scarredforever)))))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7694 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Getting to Happy
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Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a drag!! I am so sorry.

Have you done the dreaded confrontation yet?

UGH!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1141 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. And I don't blame you.

((scarredforever))


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2462 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
scarredforever
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Member # 23875
Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

no confrontation yet, I am kind of thinking why bother?


"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"


Posts: 1058 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree...why bother?

Have him served. That will tell him all he needs to know.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7694 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Sadwife222
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Member # 40050
Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree. Serve him at work without warning.


Me BW, Him WH
DD 4/12/13
TT until 9/18/14

Posts: 136 | Registered: Jul 2013
Knowing
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Member # 37044
Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you. Sending you wishes for strength and clarity. I'm so sorry this is happening in your life right now.


Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12

We are in R.


Posts: 698 | Registered: Oct 2012
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh! I am so sorry!!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6549 | Registered: Jan 2011
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Suck. I'm sure that was a crushing moment.

I agree, have him served at work, and when he comes home he can find his shit in bags in the driveway. Oh yah, and change the locks.

I am so sorry....Sometimes you can't fix stupid.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8714 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dammit.

(((((scarredforever)))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25756 | Registered: Aug 2011
Audrina
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Sad  Posted: 2:10 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. :(
What are you going to do?


Me (betrayed): 35
Him:45


Posts: 266 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Canada
jjsr
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Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
kansas1968
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Member # 32214
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How horrible. I just cannot understand how a person could put their spouse through this again after they have seen the devastation that an affair causes. It is just beyond my comprehention.

The first time I think they just don't have a clue about how much damage cheating causes, but they damned well do after that.

So, so, sorry you have wasted six years with someone who obviously has no feelings. Hugs and good luck with your future.

Keep posting. We are always here to listen.


Me - BS
Him - FWS
DD - December 14, 2010
Married 43 years 1/14/2011
Affair lasted 7+ years
Affair had been over for 2 years before I found out. OW sent me a letter.

Posts: 1319 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Kansas
Audrina
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking about you scarredforever.

This is my worst nightmare. I can't imagine how you are feeling.
But I know what I would do in your situation if it happened to me.

Honestly, I would send him packing. He doesn't deserve you. You are worth so much more.



Me (betrayed): 35
Him:45


Posts: 266 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Canada
scarredforever
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Member # 23875
Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone. I am just in disbelief. Bleh. I do deserve so much more.


"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"


Posts: 1058 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
1Faith
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Member # 38975
Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So so sorry.

But you are right. you do deserve so much more.

Be strong and know that no matter what you will be okay.

It will be hard but you will be okay.

You have already walked through the belly of hell.

Head up, shoulders back. You've done nothing wrong.

PS. I had no idea what POF was...I truly hate the internet and texting. So easy for cowards to hide. Why can't they grow up already?


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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