I'm horrified for you.
POF is where my WH found one of his ONS. He picked her out...he literally went shopping for an affair partner, and then desecrated our vows while I was home cooking his dinner and mothering our children...then I worked until midnight to help pay the bills (I work from home).
I can't go through this only to have it happen again in 6 years.
Why? WHY do they do this?