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User Topic: I hit my WH....what is wrong with me?????
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Default  Posted: 6:09 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have gained wisdom through a painful experience. You apologized for your actions. Now the hard know better so you must do better.

I can appreciate your husband as a rug wife is avoid conflict.

I would go with your IC on this one...though a part of me thinks further actions on your part are not a bad idea. But I tend to run a rabbit hard before I stop the chase....kind of the opposite of rug sweeping!

This is an issue I am working through... I have not yet learned better so I am not doing better. I am also thick headed at times. successfully navigated another pitfall on this journey. While proud is not the exact right word, you both should feel pleased you took firm, decisive, positive action following a negative reaction. It bodes well for your futures together....actually, it bodes well for YOUR future, regardless of your marital status.

God be with you both.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 6:10 AM, August 23rd (Friday)]

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4005 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm not an angry person and I socked my FWH in the nuts on D-day. I never hit him before and I've never hit him since then. I think the wave of frustration, betrayal, disappointment, etc. was just too great. Is it ever a good idea to hit someone? No, but I don't regret it one bit.

D-day April 2005, R.
Me-BS 37
Him-FWH 37, 8 month EA/PA with coworker. Married 2 yrs at the time.
2 kiddos after D-day, Married 11 years.

Posts: 262 | Registered: Jul 2005
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am feeling a lot better today. Although I know what I did was definitely over the top, it's comforting to know that I'm not alone in this boat! WH seems perfectly happy to let the whole matter drop. However I did make it clear to him after my IC that if he ever wants to discuss it I am here and willing to talk.

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