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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 13
Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JJ
Awesome pic and an instant classic.
Saved
This can be the Menz new mascot
POSER the weasel

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 3:36 PM, August 26th (Monday)]


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HotSauce
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred,

I must be really fucked up then.

Sorry man....I wasn't thinking. I believe I remember reading something about that.


Married 16 years
D-Day 2/8/13

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MC_Jack
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hot Sauce,

I wouldn't read too much into what your WW did re: to make you feel 'better'.

She is just using the few tools she has to make you happy and help you heal. Maybe lame, but what else can she do? Turn on Scooby Doo? I think maybe for gals there is some deep programming that says "man unhappy, give BJ". Like the reaction of an Emergency 51 team, not conscious manipulation.

You healing is your job, BTW. I think implicit in offering R is the willingness to heal, even if through shear will.

Jack

[This message edited by MC_Jack at 4:20 PM, August 26th (Monday)]


I am not a marriage counselor. I chose "MC Jack" in the spirit of a handle like "MC Hammer" or Young MC"...there is a lot of 'rapping' here, no? At the time I did not know what MC stood for on this site. Duh.

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MoreWould
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe the technical term for that animal in the picture is:

FUCKING WEASEL

Milk cow through fence

Instant classic! For all time.


Me BH/WH, 63
Her WW/BW, 62
Her DDay Dec 1976 OMW at the door
My DDay, ~ 2years later, confessed ONS the next day
R via "Sweeping under the rug"
Still married, 40 yrs, mostly OK
2 kids, 24 & 20

Posts: 347 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Colorado
Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is just using the few tools she has

Yeah his!
Since hot sauce did take away her other tool


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hot Sauce,

No worries mate. At all. Just wanted you to know that not enjoying a BJ doesn't make you a freak. Now a nice back rub? Then you might have issues

POSER the weasel is cool, but I don't want a weasel as a mascot. More of a nemesis. B444, that picture you posted a while back of the knight in battered armor is more suited.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post...

[This message edited by Tred at 5:04 PM, August 26th (Monday)]


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

POSER the weasel is cool, but I don't want a weasel as a mascot. More of a nemesis. B444, that picture you posted a while back of the knight in battered armor is more suited

Totally agree but I meant Mascot as in we fuckin own him, he's our bitch

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Credit goes to Tred for the milking the cow through the fence bit.
Heck, even "ER"...
and wal with the weasel...

Sorry @ the beej.
It sounds like at least she's trying. Doesn't seem to quite fit the same way ex used them...mine were without tears, or any attempt to fix things, it was...barter for silence more like. Distraction.
I don't think that's the case with you though, so relax and enjoy. It's ok to be cautiously optimistic.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope Upham got court-martialed for cowardice and murder.

Maybe we should call the POSOM "Upham" from now on.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


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HotSauce
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"man unhappy, give BJ"

I guess I'm okay with that. At least she's not like "Hulk smash!"


Married 16 years
D-Day 2/8/13

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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess my thought has always been, if she's going to cheat and manipulate me, the LEAST she could do, in the immortal words of the great George Carlin, is "make with the head."

[This message edited by FacePunched at 11:33 PM, August 26th (Monday)]


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JJ
U da man!
Good stuff

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MoreWould
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read a lot about folks that rejected sex with their spouse after DDay. I get that, but my attitude was,

"I'm your damned H. If you're doing that, I get a double helping!"

From that point forward, WW lost the right to be "tired" or have a headache. Wasn't too tired to make time for POSER. Fuck her, pun intended.


Me BH/WH, 63
Her WW/BW, 62
Her DDay Dec 1976 OMW at the door
My DDay, ~ 2years later, confessed ONS the next day
R via "Sweeping under the rug"
Still married, 40 yrs, mostly OK
2 kids, 24 & 20

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reallyscrewedup7
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MoreWould,

Amen brother. I realize now that was not healthy, but I decided if sex was her currency for attention, and the amount she gave to her APs compared to what they invested in her, I was owed a whole SHITLOAD of fucking.

I made that very clear. And in not kind terms.

I think it was one of the moments (pre-R) that really opened her eyes...


Infidelity sucks shit

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HotSauce
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read somewhere that "I wanted WW to cheat on me with me." I told her that. She looked at me like I was high. I think she gets what I meant now.


Married 16 years
D-Day 2/8/13

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I wanted WW to cheat on me with me."

I totally get that. In one of my more upset moments when things were tough early on I wrote my wife that I wish I was her AP - she really treated that guy well. Believed everything he said, never argued, never turned down sex, always at his beck and call. And what did he have to do in return? Nothing, because her husband was already paying for everything. He just had to flatter her with words and keep his dick hard for an hour and a half every two weeks. Sounds like a great job.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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HotSauce
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think WAL said awhile back that if you want to recover you have to stop calling your WW slut, whore or whatever in your mind. Forgive me if I credited wrong person or misquoted. Point being, I agree 100% with this. I think this applies to inner dialog as well. At some point you have to stop and let go of dialog after WW says shit that makes you go hmmm.


Married 16 years
D-Day 2/8/13

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe I am the odd man out here then. I wasn't interested at all in having sex with STBXWW when I found out about the A. Leading up to that I sensed she was playing a part in the bedroom and sex felt cheap and manipulative. I had no respect or attraction to her at all right after dday. Took a few months for me to let her have sex with me. and even then it was infrequent. She didn't take the rejection well. For me its almost impossible to have sex with someone who thrives on using sex as a tool/weapon. I just can't do it.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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