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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 13
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think WAL said awhile back that if you want to recover you have to stop calling your WW slut, whore or whatever in your mind. Forgive me if I credited wrong person or misquoted. Point being, I agree 100% with this. I think this applies to inner dialog as well. At some point you have to stop and let go of dialog after WW says shit that makes you go hmmm.
Yeah, I think the nasty internal dialogue is something that's healthy to have, until it's not anymore....KWIM? Like, while your WW is still acting foggy and (in general) like a petulant child, it's certainly apt. After a while though, if she's doing (NOT just saying) the right things, I think that kind of internal dialogue becomes self-harming and self-perpetuating. That being said, if a few years out you're still thinking to yourself, "What a fucking whore" when you look at her....maybe you're just done....?


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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MoreWould
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What is it with marriage anyway? We got in this place where I was a "lying SOB" not to be trusted. Proof Positive was that I regularly complimented my W on how beautiful she was. Her FOO issues meant that instantly put me in the category of "If you will lie about that, you will lie about anything".

OK, I get it, but then POSER comes along and she:

Believed everything he said, never argued,

I mean really, WTF? Where does that come from?

Later, when the fog lifted she was shocked to discover that he had just been using her, would have said anything to get her pants off, and did, and not just to her.

That shocked her too, that her lying, cheating, married AP wasn't just unfaithful to his W, he was unfaithful to my WW. Whowouldathunkit?

But meanwhile, her faithful, loving H was suspect because he actually thought she was beautiful and said so. I guess she thought her AP was cruising for ugly women.

Took a while, but I learned to ignore the monkey that screams SLUT at me every so often. And the monkey got bored, so he shut up most of the time. Most of the time.

But FWW still thinks I'm FOS. She's over 60 now, still a hardbody, and still Hot, and I still think so. Must be something wrong with me.

[This message edited by MoreWould at 2:04 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]


Me BH/WH, 63
Her WW/BW, 62
Her DDay Dec 1976 OMW at the door
My DDay, ~ 2years later, confessed ONS the next day
R via "Sweeping under the rug"
Still married, 40 yrs, mostly OK
2 kids, 24 & 20

Posts: 347 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Colorado
Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Later, when the fog lifted she was shocked to discover that he had just been using her, would have said anything to get her pants off, and did, and not just to her.

That shocked her too, that her lying, cheating, married AP wasn't just unfaithful to his W, he was unfaithful to my WW.


Man, that sounds familiar...almost like I lived it.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To shift gears to something comfortable and nerdy...is it wrong (and does it say something awful about me) that I am still, on some level, rooting for Walter White to 'win'? He is an awful person, but part of me wants him to come out unscathed.


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

Posts: 1587 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To shift gears to something comfortable and nerdy...is it wrong (and does it say something awful about me) that I am still, on some level, rooting for Walter White to 'win'? He is an awful person, but part of me wants him to come out unscathed.

Let's see...he let a junkie die, poisoned a child, was complicit in the murders of many people, blew up a nursing home, and murdered Mike. So the answer to that question is probably...oh yeah. The thing is, I feel the same way as you do.

Walter has cancer, he has to be married to the abominable Skyler who had a revenge A with her boss, his BIL is a pompous blowhard, his SIL is an annoying kleptomaniac, and his sidekick Jesse is turning into a whiny nutjob. So who can blame him for breaking bad?

Looking forward to the spin-off series with Saul Goodman. Hopefully Huell and Skinny Pete will be part of that.


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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am totally rooting for Walter. Part of me hopes he can possibly turn Hank to the dark side- or just kill him! I sure hope he doesn't kill Jesse though.


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Walt's a BM, so maybe we relate to him in that way.

He also is loyal to his family. Sure, he doesn't mind lying to Hank and blackmailing him, but Hank is family, so a "trip to Belize" is out of the question. And this from a guy who has shown a willingness to kill just about anyone without hesitation or a second's remorse. Similar to our WWs, who have the willingness to spread their legs for just about any...never mind, that zinger was too easy. "Too easy" also being an apt description of our WWs, by the way. Shit, what were we talking about?

Oh yeah, BB. Awesome show.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


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MoreWould
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sal,

For a second there I thought you were talking about the long-rumored HBO show about wayward wives. Working title:

Spreading Bad

Or was that the other upcoming blockbuster

House of Shards

???


Me BH/WH, 63
Her WW/BW, 62
Her DDay Dec 1976 OMW at the door
My DDay, ~ 2years later, confessed ONS the next day
R via "Sweeping under the rug"
Still married, 40 yrs, mostly OK
2 kids, 24 & 20

Posts: 347 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Colorado
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well played, More.

Unlike Walter White's blue meth, our WWs are definitely nowhere close to being 99% pure.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1025 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
Tred
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Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Funny shit and I've never seen an episode. Most I know about the show is listening to people on SI discuss it. I heard it's ending, looks like there might be a timeslot for The Marble Collectors.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
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Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For a second there I thought you were talking about the long-rumored HBO show about wayward wives. Working title:

Spreading Bad

Or....."Hell On Heels."


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred, you can go to Amazon and purchase the Breaking Bad pilot for $1.99. I did and was hooked within 10 minutes. It's a great series.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1025 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
MoreWould
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sal,

our WWs are definitely nowhere close to being 99% pure

You know, my W pulled that very line on me just the other day,

"Since we've been married, I've had sex with you at least 99% of all the times I've had sex."

That was somehow supposed to make me feel better. Trigger, trigger.


Me BH/WH, 63
Her WW/BW, 62
Her DDay Dec 1976 OMW at the door
My DDay, ~ 2years later, confessed ONS the next day
R via "Sweeping under the rug"
Still married, 40 yrs, mostly OK
2 kids, 24 & 20

Posts: 347 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Colorado
slater13
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

unfortunately for me I would guess the number is closer to 75%. See a problem here anyone!!!!!


The choices we make reveal the true nature of our character

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've had sex with you at least 99% of all the times I've had sex.

That qualifies for "The Stupid Shit They Say" Hall of Fame!


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Since we've been married, I've had sex with you at least 99% of all the times I've had sex."

MoreWould, I'm sure your marriage vows went something like this but you were too hungover to remember:

Will you love and comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others at least 99% of the time, keep yourself only unto him as long as you both shall live, or until you are bored, going through a midlife crisis, not "happy", or feeling that your "needs" aren't being met, at which time anything goes?


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1025 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder if they expect an award for being anything over 50%?

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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STBXWW's response to me telling her I want a divorce..."We are supposed to be committed to each other. At least I take my vows seriously!" Yes, she actually said that.

On a positive note I just watched some Bill Burr. That guy kills me. I should have watched more of him before I got married


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 5:15 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder if they expect an award for being anything over 50%?

Maybe so, jjct. I figure that at least 50% of the sex my wife has had in the past 18 months has been with me. I started playing catch-up after D Day. So that's a start. Gosh, I'm such a proud hubby!

ETA: "We are supposed to be committed to each other. At least I take my vows seriously!"

Holy crap, Rye. That belongs in the crazy wayward quote Hall of Fame.

[This message edited by Sal1995 at 5:16 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1025 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
aesir
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahh, grading on a curve.

Realistically though, is there anyone Walter White killed that didn't deserve it? I don't count the kid on the dirt bike, since he didn't do that one, just covered it up.

Jesse Pinkeman is a dead man.

I still believe that Walter White is essentially the same person. I think my favorite scene is when he is buying the stuff in the hardware store and spots the tweaker, walks over and tells him he is buying the wrong matches, talking just like a concerned and involved teacher, then afterwards walks out and says "Stay out of my town.

First 5 seasons are on Netflix Tred, after that I went with eztv.it


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