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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 13
RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred,

I am jealous of you. Have a great time and have a red stripe for me as well.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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wert
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred,

Rum...it what they do. Have fun.

take care..



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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/relationship-game-week-a-readers-journey/

Epic fail. Game? Guy needs to grow the fuck up. If he is playing Game then his wife is only the good little wife so long as she doesn't outplay him. Fuck that. My goal is to be married to an adult woman, not some high school schlock trash like this.

Look at the stupid fucking KFC argument. Really? You need to "Game" that shit? It's playing Daddy to a princess. Great news for him: so long as he stays Alpha Male Awesome Dudebro she won't go suck another dick, until someone even more Alpha Male Awesome Dudebro comes along and tells her what she wants even more Alpha Male Awesome Dudebroly. The guy should just fucking hire prostitutes and housecleaners, it's cheaper and less stress.


The other link isn't batshit drivel but I still don't think it's good advice. Interesting perspective but ultimately one I find too many flaws in.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not looking to "game" my wife. If there are methods of interaction that will make both her and I happier, why not try that?
I guess I'd just be worried about the goal posts moving, you know? From what I see on here, waywards of both genders are unhappy due to internal stuff... And trying to figure out what makes them happy is like herding cats.


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why, oh why, isn't this "Alpha Male Awesome Dudebro" my user name?!?


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, the shifting goalposts is the entire underlying issue. Yeah, Game works because it attacks insecurities and perception. If your wife is going batshit with bait questions like "Do I look fat" it's obvious she's feeling insecure about her weight or something. Derp, of course fucking with her head zero'd in on that will get results.

That's not the only method of interacting with someone. Of course it's the easy way because it shortcuts past the whole time and effort of figuring out how to actually talk to each other like adults and resolve self esteem problems. I will geek out here a sec and paraphrase a Jedi quote I remember from somewhere: "When we take shortcuts we lose the trail." That's exactly what game is. Game is for getting laid. Props to guys who work that without hurting anybody. For a relationship it's like fitting your kid with a shock collar and setting up an invisible fence around your house. Bad habits build a broken character.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If there are methods of interaction that will make both her and I happier, why not try that?

The problem lies in the fact that we are all responsible for our own happiness. Once we abdicate responsibility for that, we lose our sense of self worth, self respect, dignity, and self esteem. In my mind, the fundemental reason we are all here in the first place..our WW's thought outside influences or people would make them happy...doesn't work and only lays waste to the relationship.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

our WW's thought outside influences or people would make them happy...doesn't work and only lays waste to the relationship.


how true, ryebread.


time wounds all heels

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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred,

You suck.


Have fun anyway.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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slater13
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well apparently they did it...

AMC announced new series-
"Better Call Saul"

Awesome


The choices we make reveal the true nature of our character

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well apparently they did it...
AMC announced new series-
"Better Call Saul"

Awesome

I love that character. I'll be tuning in for sure.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred, very jealous brother. have a great time down there!

1 favor, look into dredlocks while you're down there.

I think coming back to Tred the Dred would be awesome!


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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flup
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Hold my beer and watch this!"

That was a great read! Any Man who goes out with some woman who reads, and carries around a copy of, "Eat, Pray, Love", and watches "Sex and the City" religiously, should be left with small welts from 10-foot poles from men with whom she has crossed paths.


Me: BS 55
Her: fWW 50

D-Day #1: 12 Aug. 2008. WW's 2nd affair w/college teacher.
D-Day #2: 18 June 2009. Affair #1 with neighbor was fall of 2002 - while I was coping with the fallout from 9/11.
Still trying to R.
22 years married


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Later
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to see the idea of "gaming" your wife is not very popular here.

The concept seems to require one to spend a lot of energy on manipulation. The problem is I am not a manipulative person. In other words, I have to be inauthentic.

I would become a permanent POSER.

If I can't be in an authentic relationship the what's the point? I might as well just sleep with random women.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just to be clear, I wasn't attacking the messenger, d71. I go off the rails easy and jabber about incoherent bullshit, that was all directed at the material of the link.

Later, spot on man.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love that point later. playing games is not what I thought I would be doing with my wife. I had hoped for an honest equal partner in this relationship. as you say, an authentic life.

I got game. hell each and everyone of us on this thread got game. all you have to do is become a mirror to these women. what's that famous quote? vanity thy name is woman. guaranteed to work on any woman with low self esteem or poor boundaries. I didn't think I married one of those women. my bad.

game? I'm not playing.

[This message edited by 5454real at 12:34 PM, September 12th (Thursday)]


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well apparently they did it...

AMC announced new series-
"Better Call Saul"

Awesome

Excellent! Hope Huell and Saul's wise-ass secretary are part of the cast.

http://www.rollingstone.com/movies/news/breaking-bad-q-a-lavell-crawford-comes-clean-on-huell-20130911


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slater13
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TC- That sucks reading about what your WW said to your kid. There is no excuse for that crap. It happens all the time, you take the high road (not telling the kids mommy is a whore) and she returns the favor with crap like this and worse.

And a CLS63 is high price to pay. Ohh the sound that car makes!!


The choices we make reveal the true nature of our character

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aesir
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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have seen that graph of SMV before. Aaron Clarey was writing a critique of some book called "Last One Down the Aisle Wins: 10 Keys to a Fabulous Single Life Now and an Even Better Marriage Later". Besides finding the flaws in their arguments and those graphs, he also concluded that the book is really just trying to cash in on catering to the fantasies of young college age women. He was still searching for a male equivalent book that detailed reasons to stay at home in your parents basement and play videogames.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AMC announced new series-
"Better Call Saul"

If it's a Vince Gilligan project, I'm in. Can't wait.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


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