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User Topic: A question about compartmentalization
ShockedErica11
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Question  Posted: 8:50 PM, August 22nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does it just evaporate all of a sudden when the bad choices that were made are revealed? What happens to this mysterious ability? It seems like its present and then it just disappears.

Is it present even during R? For those that have successfully R'd, does it still show up? Just very puzzled about it.

Thanks.


Him (31): Taurus517 (17 mon EA/PA); others
Me (27): 3mo EA/PA (kissed once)
One too many D-days
(Full story: see profile)

Posts: 230 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Atlanta, GA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a Master's degree in compartmentalization thanks to a miserable, abusive childhood which included sexual and physical abuse. Real Deal Compartmentalization does not just vaporize. It is something I struggle with daily, trying to keep all aspects of my life integrated and not walled off into their neat little boxes to deal with separately. Compartmentalization keeps life from being messy. If someone was to tell me that their ability to compartmentalize simply stopped one day because they willed it that way, I'd think they simply didn't know what they were talking about.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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sammie
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Default  Posted: 3:25 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup. Everything that NG said.

Like codependency, its a default function you fight your whole life.


If someone loves you, it should feel like they love you.
Never give more of yourself than you are getting back.

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." ~Ernest Hemingway


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a Master's degree in compartmentalization thanks to a miserable, abusive childhood which included sexual and physical abuse. Real Deal Compartmentalization does not just vaporize. It is something I struggle with daily, trying to keep all aspects of my life integrated and not walled off into their neat little boxes to deal with separately. Compartmentalization keeps life from being messy. If someone was to tell me that their ability to compartmentalize simply stopped one day because they willed it that way, I'd think they simply didn't know what they were talking about.


Ditto


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


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