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lostNunloved
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I cant really post in Just found out .. because I found out in January .. I listened to lies about things and today I found emails and text msgs that just confirm more of what I thought was going on ..I am so angry tonight. I had to find a place to vent that wasn't on my facebook.
My very best friend stopped being my friend because she didnt want to hear about what was going on with him one more moment. she blocked me on FB and AIM and stopped talking to me. I feel like the world has ended and all over this creep ass guy .. I am really upset again where in January I should of walked away but I am trapped in this stupid mess because I am disabled and I don't have 3 cents to my name because of this man. Lots to say but needless .. He isnt worth that rant again........... I just need some friends who understand right now.

Posts: 2 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: United States
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You sure as heck can still post in jfo!


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LostNunloved)))

Its ok to not be ok!

If you need to vent or just write then do it.

I understand what it feels like to be stuck :(


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its lonely and makes you feel crazy when everyone around you especially your closest friends cut you off. They give you attitude. Are annoyed...they say,"not this again"
"Arent you over it yet"

" just be happy already! You must want to be miserable"...

Wtf! Well I have heard it all...

I promise I am hear to listen and support you. You are not alone.


Together 20yrs married 17yrs
2 kids, now 18 & 15
Bw: now 37
Wh: now 36
Mow: now 49
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
thisissogross
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to you ((lost)) you are far from alone here. The healing library (upper left of the screen) is chock full of great reading. I'm so sorry about what you're dealing with, it's just awful your friend behaved as she did. Often, it seems as if people think this is catching or they just don't know how to deal with it/what to say or do. Not excusing her behavior AT ALL, that's very cold on top of the misery you were already trying to navigate.

If you just got confirmation then you did just find out. It takes lots of folks a while to get actual evidence. There are lots of great threads in that forum so I hope you'll read there, especially if you did just confirm your suspicions.

Above all, take care of yourself during this stressful time. Drink plenty of (nonalcoholic) fluids, if you can't eat try ensure or smoothies, if you need help with getting rest or fighting depression see your doctor, and please continue to reach out for support whether here-or a friend (who knows how to act), or with a therapist (I LOVED my therapy-meant the world to me and I highly reccomend it). Try to think of just one nice thing to do for yourself each day and do it.

I will be wishing you well and I'm sure wiser people than me will be along shortly, ((lost)) so sorry you're dealing with this, and please remember you are not alone.

Eta:the wiser ones arrived before I got my long winded post up! When I started it there were no replies yet. See? Waaay not alone here lost, so so (tragically) far from alone.

[This message edited by thisissogross at 11:21 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]


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i edit frequently because i have to


Posts: 232 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: southern us
Nohopeleft
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry for what you are going through.

I know all too well what it is like to feel betrayed by your friend as well as your spouse.

I've have shed as many tears over my lost friendship as I have over my husbands betrayal.

It sucks and is totally isolating.

Hope you find the support you need here.


Me: late 30s Husband: late 30s
M 14 years, T 18
C: 8 and 10

DD 1: 3/12 numerous PA from 95-05 resulted in me confessing to brief PA prior to marriage

DD 2: 4/12 RA with prost.

DD 3: 11/12 RA with old professor

Hoping for R but doubtful


Posts: 33 | Registered: Aug 2013
Reyna13
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like you found out awhile ago and was unsure where to post. Some of my friends acted funny when I used to try and talk to them, like I had a disease they could catch, so I stopped. Found this place and it feels like I'm not so alone. Hope you get the support and friendship you need.


Me-BS 45
Him-WS 45
Married 14 years
1st D-Day August 2009
TT for 4 year
More Affair info August 2013

The wound keeps getting broke open each time he tells me more "truths"


Posts: 20 | Registered: Aug 2013
nolight
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Default  Posted: 3:17 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No Hun you are not alone so vent away! I don't know why people act this way some people think its catching, others are just self centred assholes neither are true friends

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