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User Topic: We conceived around the time of his infidelity.
smc0813
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband came clean on July 21st that he was having an affair with a married woman. They slept together twice once on July 7th and once on July 8th. I just found out I'm pregnant. And our conception date would've been around the time of his infidelity. I feel so dirty. He slept with her and then around the same time slept with me. And now the only thing I can think about is did he get her pregnant too.


Married: April 20, 2012
First born: August 13, 2011
Miscarriage: August 4, 2012
Discovery day: July 21, 2013

Posts: 4 | Registered: Aug 2013
krazy8516
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yikes!

First of all don't stress, don't obsess. Take care of yourself and your baby.

It's still so early out from d-day... how are you and your H doing (NC, remorse, transparency, counseling, etc) Have you told him about your pregnancy or are we the first to know?

::hugs:: hun. We're here for you.


me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."


Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
smc0813
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I gave him a deadline to decide if he was willing to do mc or if we should jus get a divorce. That date was set for August 19th. I found out august 17th. But I didn't want it to affect his decision so I didn't tell him right away. But now he's not acting very interested in the pregnancy. Every time I bring it up or talk about plans for the kids room or baby names or whatever he either ignores me or makes a negative comment.


Married: April 20, 2012
First born: August 13, 2011
Miscarriage: August 4, 2012
Discovery day: July 21, 2013

Posts: 4 | Registered: Aug 2013
jjsr
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First off you are not dirty.
The date came and passed and now he is ignoring you or saying something negative about your pregnancy. I would check out my legal options and quickly too.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1649 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Skan
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^ This. Bring a little reality into his fantasy life that of supporting you and your child. Also, I do hope that you had STD/HIV tests. Especially since you're pregnant. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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