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User Topic: Is this how it begins?
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy for you!

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WhoIsThisWoman
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great story. So happy for you... Going to pay more attention to when I'm out at the grocery store...

Best of luck!


Me: 40 yo
STBXWW: 41 yo
Married 15 years, 4 kids.
EA in '07
PA in '09 (same OM)

Posts: 248 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: PA, USA
persevere
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GREAT first date!!! Can't wait to hear about the next one - that sounds really cool!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So loved reading this. Can't wait for the next update! Thanks for helping keep hope alive!


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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traildad
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone.

Definitely keep your eyes open in the grocery store

More importantly, act in the moment, don't wait. The only moment you really have is NOW. Don't let fear every hold you back.

Just a few days before i met this wonderful woman in the grocery store I had read this article (someone may have posted in the NB here, I can't remember how I found it, if it was you, Thank You!):

http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2013/08/the-loveliest-short-story-you-will-read-today-was-published-on-craigslist/278533/

As I was in the checkout lane, and had made eye contact, I thought immediately about this article, and how I would feel if I let this moment pass without saying something. So I acted, and I am so glad I did

[This message edited by traildad at 9:56 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
timeforchange
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Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love your story and hope it brings hope to people still in the early stages of their journey into a new life after infidelity.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


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Iamhappytoday
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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just had the biggest bummer of a night, then read this, and all feels right in the world!

It seriously corrected my night!

I just wish you the best. Good for you for taking a chance.
This gives me hope. Wishing you continued happiness!


BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

Posts: 131 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!!
traildad
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well...we just spontaneously had our second date!! We were texting back and forth and realized that each of us was meddling around the house awaiting the arrival of our children...with three hours to spare. So I walked two blocks and we had some wine, watched some football, talked, and made out for a bit

Just an everyday Sunday afternoon


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fun. Keep the stories coming.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great story traildad. So refreshing to read something like this.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great Traildad. As someone involved in an LDR, I would love the opportunity to do something spontaneous like that with my special someone. Glad you two are clicking so well together.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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burnt_toast
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

swoon


It is what it is.

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clralb
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, September 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a big grin on my face reading your story!

Being a native Michigander, this time of the year is great for dates! Not too hot, yet not too cold yet. I miss this time of year there.

Wishing you the best


BS Divorced.

They were right about you.


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veelop5
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This story made my eyes swell up with tears of joy for you...You give so many of us hope....enjoy the ride...she sounds lovely!!!!


ME-38
XH-40
3 beautiful boys (20,19 & 15)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
Divorce final 3/27/2013

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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^bumping for an update, Traildad


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't really ever read too much down here in this forum but I have the time tonight....and I am so glad I did. I love a great true story. So happy I came late to the thread and was able to read it all at once.

Very happy for you and HER! How flattering. To be asked out in the grocery store after being at the gym, AWESOME!


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 1:13 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My favorite thread currently


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4378 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
traildad
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good afternoon! I'm back for a quick update. Would have been sooner, but...

we had a wonderful third date on Friday night. A fun dinner being introduced to sushi by a very helpful waitstaff, attempting to use chopsticks. Shared some wine afterward, and had some deep talks about where we are in life, and how we felt about this 'relationship' (meaning we agreed this was now a relationship), it was a very intimate talk, a very intimate evening

She is a really wonderful woman. She didn't choose her D (not infidelity related), but has pulled herself up and has hit her stride in life, she is very happy being who she is, with or without someone. We have found ourselves meeting at a time where we are both cruising along comfortably with our own lives. Both in very healthy places, not expecting this to happen, not looking for this to happen. I think that makes it all the more exciting. Neither of us 'need' to be with someone, but we want to be with each other. We are bringing our healthiest selves into this, and our guard is slowly dropping.

Then last night she came over...and we talked for hours...just talked, could have talked all night, but we have responsibilities, a lot of them. Looking forward to when we can see each other again.

I am so glad that four weeks ago today I recognized a moment that truly could be life changing. I am savoring the joy of this moment, no matter where this road leads. Thanks for following along.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your story gives so much hope.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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