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User Topic: Is this how it begins?
cmego
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy that good things do happen, keep us updated


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4110 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a great thread, traildad! I haven't been around in a while, but glad I dropped in last night and saw this. Had to check again when I saw there were more posts.

And to think, this started with a first date on Friday the 13th!! Glad you're not superstitious!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2249 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so happy for you, Traildad


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1355 | Registered: Dec 2012
persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just love this and am so excited for you both!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4456 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just so you know traildad, I make SI my last stop before I go to bed on Sunday, just hoping for a update from you. Thanks for not disappointing me but thanks more for giving all of us hope. After reading so many sad stories (and that's not even counting my own!) it's refreshing to see a nice guy finishing first. Well done, sir! Lucky you and lucky her!

**edited to fix "forgiving" to "for giving"--a Freudian slip, perhaps

[This message edited by meaniemouse at 11:39 PM, September 22nd (Sunday)]


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2105 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a wonderful update. Thanks for sharing and taking us along on your journey.


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

Posts: 2451 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: North Carolina
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 4:20 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any updates?


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
traildad
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


We have been on several more dates, with plans to spend most of this afternoon and evening together. A concert planned for next month. More fun and laughter with each date. A little apprehension from each of us as perhaps we didn't quite expect this, and were both pretty darn happy being single. Letting things develop naturally.

Oh, one other thing...I slipped and told her about this thread...and she has read the entire thing, and loved it!!!


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, one other thing...I slipped and told her about this thread...and she has read the entire thing, and loved it!!!

Slipped? Really?

You just wanted to introduce you closest 40,000 friends to her.

This such a great thread Traildad. I'm so happy for you and your SO.

[This message edited by gahurts at 8:33 AM, October 12th (Saturday)]


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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torn2bits
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok traildad, soooo happy for you both.

Carp diem!!!!

We know you are both well. This is really all we need to know.

On with your great adventure!

Cheers!


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 3:11 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wondered how she would feel about this thread!!!

Sounds like you have a really awesome woman!

Congrats!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice to see an update! I've checked back a few times wondering.


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
IndianDreams
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've only just come across this thread tonight and have read the whole thing in one go, all 7 pages, with a great big grin on my face and even a tear in my eye at points.
I don't know you TrailDad but like all of us here you deserve your happy ending - relish every second of it


It wasn't my fault; my bucket was broken
NC = no new hurts

Posts: 38 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: England
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's nice to share.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Reading this just makes me wanna go


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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traildad
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I started to write about the dates (there have been many!), the fun we've been having (a lot), and even the "big" steps we've taken. That would've been fun to share, and I will. But it really isn't about all of that. It's about moments. The moment I watched her walk on stage to perform in a community theatre play, that feeling of pride. The moment when she shared and celebrated a new beginning for me in a new house. That moment I realized I was going to miss her as I walked out the door, not to see her for 12 days. The moment she looked amazing in a ball cap and jeans cooking dinner. There have been many moments, all starting in the grocery store checkout lane. The beauty being that my life experience has taught me to savor these moments without fear or apprehension. I wrote a post about fear over a year ago. That was about fear of negative events. I didn't realize that the greatest threat to joy was fear, that fear can keep us from fully enjoying those moments. Letting go of that fear is powerful, exciting, and joyful. I like her very much, and I am enjoying each step of this journey as it unfolds naturally. Thanks everyone for following along.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you. Enjoy what you have while you have it and certainly don't ever take it for granted. My NB has not gone so well.


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9176 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
cmego
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree…fear stops us from just saying, "screw it, I'm going for it!" and seeing if we find joy behind the fear.

So glad it is continuing to go well for you. You give many of us hope


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4110 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know how I missed this thread way back in September. Glad I found it now. So very happy for you Traildad. Love the lesson about savoring life's moments--I agree 100%--the moments are where life happens.

Smiling for you tonight! (Smiling and thinking YIPPPEEE for both of them!!!)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3086 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 3:02 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the updates, it is wonderful to hear the happy story.


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

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