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User Topic: Is this how it begins?
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great story Traildad. You just never know when you will meet someone and what the circumstances will be. So happy you took the chance. Good luck!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aww! Moment


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Def call her before her children come home!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seen the commercial where the cute guy picks up the girl who needs gas for her truck? He hesitates and doesn't ask for her number but finds it written in the dust on the trunk of his car. He is on the phone before the commercial ends.

Call. If you are interested, call.

And cool story!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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traildad
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone. Quick update. I waited until I had a few quiet moments away from the kids and called her this afternoon. It went straight to voice mail without ringing. I left a very brief message indicating I hoped we could connect soon, hoping her weekend was enjoyable, and my phone number. More to come...


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post! I hope you hear back from her soon. :)


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this story! However it turns out (and I get a feeling that it's going to be good)it's a great "how we met" story, it gives people hope that you CAN really meet someone cool IRL, doing the everyday normal things that responsible people do, it's so real that both of you were a little nervous, it's wonderfully brave for you to reach out and for her to be open to it, it was perfect that you called within a short time and it's even good that it went to voice mail.

Now my imagination is running away with me.

I like to imagine that she was busy doing the things that moms do when they have a free weekend and had been checking her phone every 5 minutes to see if you had called. The call probably came in between her quick checks and I bet that she is dancing around smiling from ear to ear that you actually called. She's probably stressing about how to contact you back--wondering if she should call or text, what she should or shouldn't say, and has butterflies in her stomach. You know that time when something happens in your life and it's just the beginning and you have everything ahead of you and you think, "gee, I wonder if I'll remember this day, just like it happened, however many years from now?"

I just think it everything about it is way coooooool.

And pardon my overactive imagination

[This message edited by meaniemouse at 3:21 PM, August 25th (Sunday)]


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traildad
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Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love the imagination meanie...

She called back about an hour after I left her a message. We were eating dinner so I couldn''t answer. Been busy with evening routine ever since. Do you think at this point it would be appropriate to send her a quick text asking if there is a convenient time to call? I am sure she is in the midst of bedtime routines as well.

Thanks everyone for the kind words and advice...

[This message edited by traildad at 9:43 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, entirely appropriate. Go for it!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Send the text!!!!!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gosh, I've followed your story, Traildad!

Swooning as well...

Best of luck to you....

Yes text! EEEEK!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


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traildad
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...and we just talked on the phone for 80 minutes! Turns out we live two blocks away from each other (for now, I'm moving). We were both pretty nervous (I get quiet when I'm nervous, I think she talks lol)

We have a date scheduled for our next coinciding day without children...in three weeks


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have a date scheduled for our next coinciding day without children...in three weeks
That sounds like single parent's schedules. But YAY !!!
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I'm so happy for you.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well done, traildad.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwwww I'm so glad to see the update traildad! I came on SI tonight primarily to check this thread! I just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this story.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And this IS how it begins. Not in a bar, not on an OLD, simply in a grocery check out line. No expectations, no false visions!!!

Go brother!!!


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well played, my friend.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This made my day and is so awesome to hear td!!! Here's wishing you all the best my friend!


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 60 | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is amazing! Go traildad!

*Mental note - buy some loose fitting sweatpants to wear to the grocery store next time.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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