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User Topic: Is this how it begins?
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is awesome. You put me in a good mood with your good news! Definitely keep us updated. I'm so glad you went for it and didn't let her leave without getting her number.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 722 | Registered: Mar 2013
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so awesome. Thanks for sharing!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1006 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I keep coming back and reading this thread. Gives me goosebumps and a smile.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4031 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
traildad
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you find yourself in the early stages of dating someone new, I can not recommend enough taking the time to appreciate what it is you are experiencing. It truly is the opposite of all the hurt of infidelity. Step back each day and admire observe the process, really live in the moment. Look at it from the perspective of the future, if you go on to marry this person, don't you want to remember these moments and feelings, vividly. You have that opportunity. Do not worry, just live and experience.

I am happily observing one phone call, turning into occasional texts, into a long, deep phone call, into more frequent texts and sharing of our days. More importantly, I am enjoying the shift from nervously getting to know more about someone (when you know nothing) to wanting to be a part of each other's day. Today there was an ever so slight shift, sharing of good news, a goodnight text. That tone that says, we aren't just friends...


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 3:59 AM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

traildad,

I just read the entire thread and smiled so much my jaw hurts. Please keep with the updates. I love hearing that there is happiness possible ahead.

Congratulations on the wonderful luck of renting in your old neighborhood. How wonderful for your children! And it says something about you that your old neighbor wants you in his house. I'm so glad that things are looking so good for you all.

FQ


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 452 | Registered: Aug 2012
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread makes me smile!

So happy for you traildad


Me 46
STBXH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. He's now living with OW3.

Posts: 179 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
traildad
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A little over a week until the much anticipated first date. We talked on the phone again last night for another hour and a half. I find it very refreshing that she has her life together and clearly isn't looking for a guy to come along and save the day. She is thriving as a single, working mom of three young kids. She also, despite all she has going on, keeps her word, calls when she says she will, and is clearly making it a priority for us to talk every few days.

A common theme I have seen in NB threads relates to someone not making time for a SO, and what that means. Now, I have seen both angles, and I can honestly say that if someone wants to make time, they will. I dated someone for a few weeks over the summer, I never seemed to have time to talk with or see her. Finally, I came to the realization it was because I just wasn't that into her. It wasn't intentional, I wasn't trying to mislead her, but somewhere subconsciously I didn't feel she was worth sacrificing sleep, time with friends, etc. As soon as I realized that, I ended it.

Now, here we are, both single, working parents, each with three children seven and under - and we have found time to have regular conversations. It can happen.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
persevere
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Swooning over your updates trail dad!


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4160 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Smiling from ear to ear ..


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4031 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still loving this story and anxiously awaiting follow-ups. In the meantime--good for you traildad. GOOD for you!


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2056 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
traildad
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone for the positive responses to sharing my story!

I am leaving in just over an hour to pick her up for our first date...I've been on a couple of first dates since my D, but this one has a different feel.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
Broken hearted61
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope you have a fantastic time and a new beginning in your life.


BGF (50) me
WBF (50) him
DD#1 02/23/2012

TT 03/19/2012
Working on R (03/21/2012)
It's over: 5/5/12


Posts: 223 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Be sure to come back with an update afterward!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So...... this update. Does traildad have a curfew tonight???


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 12 DS 9
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Someone please pass the popcorn?

Will check back later.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4031 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope it's a really late date, he deserves a fun evening!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All night party waiting up for traildad!! whoo hoo!!

(passes K the popcorn)

Can anyone else imagine the day traildad tries to explain "US" and this thread to his lady friend??


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 12 DS 9
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5307 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All night party waiting up for traildad!! whoo hoo!!
(passes K the popcorn)

Can anyone else imagine the day traildad tries to explain "US" and this thread to his lady friend??

Passes the popcorn back to CG, we can figure out a name for this group waiting for the update . I call y'all my Internet friends. If they don't get it or feel threatened by it -NEXT!!! My Internet friends are too dang important to my health and well being.

Do we have anything to drink, popcorns making me thirsty !

I hope trail dad is having fun.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4031 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Living vicariously through traildad is the best fun for tonight!

Internet friends are one thing. But the internet ladies chatting away on his thread, passing imaginary popcorn and wine back and forth while keeping tabs on how LATE it gets while he is on his date.... Yeah, that borders on the "voices in my head tell me I am not crazy" vein.


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 12 DS 9
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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