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User Topic: Up North Slut Blowed Up Good
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just a little background for those who don't know the story. Up North Slut (Mary) isn't the OW. She is the often time guest of our Up North lake house neighbor, a divorced man, Steve. They are just friends. Mary is an extreme alcoholic who has been in rehab at least twice, one time being last summer. (I didn't have to deal with her last summer as she was in rehab the whole time. YAY!)

Anyway, her boundaries are crap. She has made more than one pass at my FWH pre d-day and after. I don't worry about my FWH. He wouldn't have anything to do with her. Pre d-day because he knew if he did cross boundaries it would have gotten back to me (he was a sly bastard), and after d-day because he now has strong boundaries.

My issue was whenever I saw Mary she would act all friendly to me. I don't play those kinds of games. I don't like her and I don't pretend. She is a person who wouldn't think twice about stabbing you in the back. I have always wanted to tell her off. Just to let her know what kind of a low down slut I think she is and that I don't appreciate her treating me, my husband and our marriage with such disrespect. That I am not going to put on a friendly act with her and play some weird game. Just wanted her to know why I disliked her so much. If I didn't have to deal with her each summer, I wouldn't care.

She has been Up North a couple of times this summer. I wasn't there either time, but FWH was.

The last time, and I hope it is truly the last time, she was there she was totally pass out drunk by early Saturday afternoon. And, that is exactly what she did. She passed out in one of Steve's neighbors house. When she awoke, the wife of the owner of the house and the girlfriend of one of the single guys were in the house. I don't know what Mary said to them, but whatever she said or did, pissed them off big time. They went to Steve and told him to get her the eff out of their house and that they can't stand her and don't ever want to see her again. This is the wife, who is an alcoholic, too, who often gets drunk with Mary.

Then Mary asks Steve to take her to town to get more beer. Steve was busy and said he would later. Then she told Steve she was going to go ask MisterSister to take her to get beer. Steve told Mary that she better not ask MisterSister, that he doesn't like her. Mary asked "What kind of friend is that?" and Steve told her that MisterSister was his friend, not Mary's friend. He reiterated that MisterSister didn't like her and wasn't her friend.

For the rest of the night Mary was venting and disparaging MisterSister to everyone Up North. MisterSister doesn't hang around at the campfire when Mary is there so he didn't know anything about this. All of MisterSister's friends told Steve that they are sick of Mary and they don't want her around anymore.

Sunday morning Steve came over to apologize to MisterSister. MisterSister was confused. Steve thought that some of the neighbors would have told MisterSister what Mary had been saying. Anyway, he apologized to my FWH and told him that Mary wouldn't be coming Up North anymore. I hope that is true.

Mary used to be not unfortunate looking. Apparently, her hard living and drinking ways have caught up to her. Everyone says that her appearance has gone drastically downhill.

Even if Mary continues to go Up North, I no longer have the desire to tell her off. It would be pointless and make no impression upon her, I am sure. But, really, she is just such a pathetic, drunken, broken fool and it would be like kicking a dog when it is already down. I still don't like her, but I do feel sorry for her.

I am no longer the bitch, everyone Up North is on the same page as me now. They see what I saw years ago. Yay, for small victories.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9642 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Looks like karma has caught up with her!


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2181 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HUGE victory. I for one have been following this story, and I'm REALLY glad that people are getting on the trolley about her behavior, and that it has nothing to do with you two.

I wasn't aware that MisterSister had completely banned any campfires with her around - that is awesome too. The last I read about this you were having difficulty getting him on the team with regard to keeping some distance from her. Yaaaaay Mister and yaaaay karma!


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17296 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Flatlined123
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahh, she was probably so drunk she didn't hear the karma bus barreling down on her.

Sad for her that her shit came back to bite her in the butt, but that's how it usually is when you're not a nice person.

Enjoy your time up north, it's a beautiful part of our state


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jun 2012
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is UpNorth code for "high school"?

It sure sounds like it.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7640 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jrazz, I guess I have to start trusting MisterSister. Just because he doesn't do things exactly the way I would like him to do it, doesn't mean he won't keep his boundaries safe in his way.

I wanted him to be rude to Mary. FWH didn't feel that was necessary to keep his boundaries safe. He is probably right. I wanted him to avoid Mary like the plague and stay in the house when she was at the lake or be out fishing. FWH thought that was a bit extreme because many times just because Mary was Up North didn't necessarily mean she was outside all the time with everyone. He felt I was projecting a lot of my feelings for OW onto Mary and that is probably true, too.

He went to dinner at Steve's house once while Mary was there. FWH didn't know Mary was in the house, but she was. FWH stayed and had dinner, there were others there, too, and he just didn't engage at all with Mary. However, he does know that Mary always goes to the campfire and thats where oftentimes her behaviour gets out of hand. So, he doesn't go to the campfires whilst Mary is Up North. This was his idea and I am proud of him.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9642 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 12:39 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nothing more pathetic than an old broken down drunk desperate woman. Yay for MrSister for boycotting the campfire when skank is warming her ass...sounds like you guys are A ok Sister..happy for you


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5028 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't get me wrong.. he could do a LITTLE less contesting and a LITTLE more team-avoid-the-cray-cray. I remember that the campfire was when she'd let it allllll hang out though, so that's a great place to start.

Oy.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17296 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
MrsDoubtfire
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Default  Posted: 2:57 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yey Sister. I too have followed your Up North stories so am pleased karma bit her hard on the butt!
When I hear talk of her I imagine she looks like Magda from the movie There's Something About Mary!! *sorry, that's offensive to Magda*


BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

Posts: 1572 | Registered: Jul 2009
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:35 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg Magda..YESSS


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5028 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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