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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My sister had another miscarriage.

I just found out, she lost her baby 10 days ago. And it all makes sense now. I knew all along. Not intellectually, but in my spirit. Something within sensed it.

I feel like I've been dying the past 10 days. Heart bleeding, tears pouring, soul screaming, agonizing pain. I felt I was going insane. Could not get a grip on my pain and loss. Could not understand why I hurt so dang bad. Every image of a newborn, every thought of my Angel Baby, shredded me. The feeling of loss was so great, I couldn't wrap my mind around it. Couldn't fathom where the triggers were coming from.

Now it makes sense.

Life sucks. She doesn't deserve this hurt. Not once, let alone twice.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


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click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What an incredibly caring sister you are. She is SO lucky to have you - and you have each other. I'm so sorry for her loss. ((((hugs)))


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Aubrie. I'm so sorry you and your sis are hurting. I will keep you all in my prayers.

((((Aubrie and sis))))


Posts: 1250 | Registered: Feb 2010
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry for you, your sister and the baby. Sending prayers


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

When travesty hits my sister (she had miscarriages as well) I can feel it too.

(((Aubrie84)))


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending my condolences Aubrie.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my prayers for you and your family.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
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― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2844 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really sorry to hear this, Aubrie. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry Aubrie. I hope you and your sister can find peace.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3416 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Aubrie, sister, and angel babies)))))


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Sis, Aubrie, & family)))

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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry.

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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Aubrie, Sis, and family))))

Wow...that just sucks beyond belief. It effing sucks. You all are in my prayers.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1720 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for y'all's lost.
My sister has had two miscarriages in the last two years also. :-(

She's currently 21 weeks with her third son and I'll be worried sick until he's safely in the newborn nursery.

Being a doctor who did OB up until last spring I know way too damn much.

May blessings be on you and your family.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2195 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate it. Today sucked and the last think I wanted to do with my evening is make another charm to add to her Angel Baby necklace.

When travesty hits my sister (she had miscarriages as well) I can feel it too.
So I'm not the only one. I felt a little like a lunatic for admitting to that.

She told me she'd lost the baby and I was like, "I know." Her jaw dropped. I didn't know, know. But it just made sense. It clicked. Maybe I'm going crazy, I dunno. She actually seemed to find some comfort in it when I told her.

I totally understand Dr. PJ. If my sister can carry another one, we're all going to be on pins and needles till delivery.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6236 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to you and your sister.

Sending a song to you both:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2uC_ODp-Dc


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for posting that.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6236 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're very welcome.


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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