My H replied. "That's smart"
This really bugged me. Maybe I took it too personally, but I felt that he should defend marriage at this point in our recovery not knock it.
I think I over-reacted because later, I told him that he shouldn't let his disillusionment with marriage, influence comments to other people. The person in this case is so terribly lonely and would probably love to find someone to care for.
H claims he is not disillusioned with marriage. Guys sometimes talk this way to each other.
My feelings were hurt. Was I wrong?
I work in a very male dominated field. I hear comments like that all the time. They are said in a machismo joking manner. That doesn't excuse it at all or make them any less obnoxious.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Expecting progress not perfection
It's also my thought that your H should (ETA) not have said something like that, during R, no... and I also think that you have a right to be both sensitive and oversensitive at present. I know that I am as well, though not R, and that it takes quite some time to come back down from it.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 3:36 PM, August 26th (Monday)]
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge
It would be smart if your BIL found love at this time of his life rather than just "a younger woman" If he has enough money, he can do that anyway. But where's the comfort in that?
Sorry FB, he's doing stupid well.