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User Topic: Where do I go from here?
freelancer
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On Friday, WH (who is conveniently out of town for work, he doesn't have to see me or face me) told me that he isn't sure he loves me anymore and he doesn't see us having a future together. I am devastated. I didn't think my heart could break anymore, but it has. I feel completely shattered.


Me: BS, 34
Him: WH, 34
2 beautiful babies, 6 and 3, HB baby due 06/2014
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.

Posts: 235 | Registered: Aug 2012
NeverAgain2013
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Member # 38121
Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((freelancer)))

Do yourself a huge favor and dry your tears and get to a lawyer. You need to find out what you can expect and what you're entitled to. Its always better to control a situation than let it control you.

Good luck to you.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1577 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
freelancer
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Member # 36529
Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But I don't want a divorce. I completely see that now. But how long can I keep fighting for my marriage and my family against someone that doesn't care?


Me: BS, 34
Him: WH, 34
2 beautiful babies, 6 and 3, HB baby due 06/2014
DD1: 7/1/2012
OW#1: EA/PA for 14 months
OW#2: PA for 1.5 months
DD2: 9/17/2013 Back at it with OW#1 for 4 weeks.

Posts: 235 | Registered: Aug 2012
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Remember that often times we don't get what we want. None of us wanted to be cheated on in the first place.

You have children that you need to think of first and foremost. Go to a lawyer and find out where you stand. Sometimes when you say, "fine, I'll file then" the WS gets their head out of their ass. If he doesn't then he isn't worth your time anyway.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2081 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Fireflies
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, freelancer. Please, consult with an attorney. You cannot will and wish your WH into being the person you want him to be, the person you deserve. Divorce proceedings can always be stopped, but you have to protect yourself and your kids.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Go your way,
I'll take the long way 'round,
I'll find my own way down,
As I should.

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