If you're feeling like you can't function, please see your doctor. I got on some anti-anxiety meds and they helped me immensely. I could actually sleep and eat with them.
The next stage of this mess is the anger. You're still in the very raw, shocked stage. Soon the anger takes over and it's not a bad thing. The anger is what will allow you to get your affairs in order. I would recommend seeing an attorney for a consultation. This doesn't mean that you have to file for divorce right now, but at least you will understand what your rights are.
Please read the Healing Library in the upper left hand corner. There is wonderful information in there. Start practicing the 180 and NC (no contact). It will help you in the healing process.
You're not alone. There is a big rollercoaster of emotion coming your way, but with time and taking care of yourself it gets better. It's so so hard in the beginning, though.
We're here for you. Keep posting and lean on us.
[This message edited by Jrazz at 2:56 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)]
For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot
When I was in that position, it was helpful to take a step back, and just really look at what was happening, maybe it was me detaching from the situation, but it made it a bit easier to not get utterly consumed by the situation.
sending you hugs, and wishing you peace in your heart.
You will be ok. You will be you again.
D-Day May 1 2013
D-Day#2 Aug. 7th 2013
in R and working at it
When i first found out about it, she was a 'stalker', then she was a 'friend he had cross ed the line with, with an emotional affair. Then we went to CT and he asked for another chance, cried, sobbed begged and said he would spend the netx 3 months trying to make it up to me. He swore up and down there was no sex.
THEN i found out there was sex. & it's like a switch flipped in him. Now he's the VICTIM because i'm calling him an asshole. He's become cold, callous and speaks to me angrily. LIKE I DID SOMETHING WRONG. We're in the middle of a move, just signed a 1 year lease (?!?!) and i have to pack and function like my life isn't over. It's virtually impossible!
Now i don't want to live with him, but extricating myself is taking more time than i want, and more brain function that i have right now.
God help me when i hit the rage stage.
I can't thank everyone enough for their 'virtual' support. If anyone knows of a support group in LA that meets up, please let me know!