Now we are in a relationship with someone that didn't honor values that we believed they too shared.
Now, we feel we compromised our own moral values to stand by them. In a sense we are tearing ourselves in half.
If we leave...we give up..."for better or worse" a moral value we hold dear becomes meaningless.
If we stay...we give in...because we have high integrity and know we deserve better.
Either way, we compromise ourselves, our moral values and beliefs. Our view on what love means (Love means never hurting someone you care about. How can you choose to be with someone else if you truly love us?)is compromised.
^^^This is a HUGE part of my struggle. From my profile:
This is my second marriage and I swore this would be a deal breaker if it ever happened, but here I am trying to put the pieces back together and struggling with whether or not I'm betraying myself in the process...
And here I am feeling betrayed by TWO people who were supposed to love me - including ME!
It's a hard pill to swallow.Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids
Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9