Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller
It sucks that it took such a reaction from you to get an emotional and supportive response from him.
Hopefully this will be the start of him understanding.
[This message edited by unfound at 7:00 PM, August 30th (Friday)]
Is it awful that I am so sick right now but I'm enjoying him crying and the attention from him.
I get the pain, but the goal of R is comfort one another without resorting to raging hysterics. The foundation of healing (and R) is communication ... NOT empty threats.
Re-read Aesop's Fables, "The Boy Who Cried Wolf."
To me it's like a child doing a certain behavior just because they know they will get the response they need at that moment. Once they get what they want it's back to the same old same old.
I think many of us on here have had those kind of days where the pain just gets to be too much. I was so upset by my lack of control over my own life. Hence, my username. I couldn't believe this really was happening to me. I sobbed uncontrollably many days, but WH wasn't around to hear or see it.
I don't think that it's bad or that you're a drama queen because you're enjoying the attention from WH and seeing WH cry. I think you are probably seeing his attention and tears as signs of remorse, and are holding out hope that he will change. I think that's perfectly normal.
I hope that's what it means, for your sake.
I hope you're feeling better today.
No. Because it's actually progress. He wasn't showing emotion or giving you attention before and now he is. I don't think it's bad that you're enjoying it, I think it's good that you can appreciate it even through your own pain.
I hope this is the beginning of some true healing.
I too feel so much better when he breaks down and cries, which has happened maybe half a dozen times in the last year. It shows me he really is truly remorseful and loves me like I always thought he did during those years of betrayal when I was clueless.
everything is a process, this is yours.
I do not agree with the judgement that you are a drama queen.
people have limits and your husband having several outright affairs, more emotional affairs, and a BS who finally cracks and breaks open is NOT being a drama queeen.
As for "enjoying" his attention and remorse, well you should have had it all along. So why are we hearing the boy who cried wolf?