Topic: Yet another thing xWH was wrong about
Member # 21964
| Posted: 9:18 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
My xWH always tried to make me think that I wasn't any good at what I did, I was mean, too combative, too quiet and that people didn't like me. He also tried to imply that I was a failure at work and his career was going so much better because you know, he's so fucking awesome.
Well fuck you xWH because this week I had an interim review and was basically told I was on the fast track and was considered a go to person on a certain kind of project and the front office was glad to know they had someone like me in their pocket, but also!!! today I not only was appointed team lead for the entire month of December ( a big deal honor) BUT EVEN BETTER I'm being sent to Mexico City for the entire month of September to use my expertise to clear out a back log of cases and help that site get caught up on their work.
These trips are exceptionally competitive, everyone wants to do them, and usually you have to do them at smaller/lesser sites first to earn the right to go to Mexico City.
So there xWH. Look what I accomplished just by being myself. Hah!
BS 45, WH 38
M 8 years, together 10
Real DDay 10/07/11
Too many OW to count.
D final on 6/21/12
You have to walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie.
Posts: 2718 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Member # 33226
| Posted: 9:53 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
Cayc - you are amazing. Truly amazing!
Congratulations on receiving the recognition you so clearly deserve.
You can call me NIK
"Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in." -Cohen
Posts: 21921 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 22870
| Posted: 9:57 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
Woot! The awesomeness that is you is busting out to be recognized!
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 6782 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 38735
| Posted: 10:02 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
Awesome! I'm so excited for you. I love Mexico City too. Enjoy!
BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Posts: 677 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 32554
| Posted: 10:20 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
Wow, that's amazing! YAY for you!
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
Posts: 8442 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 31528
| Posted: 10:29 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
Posts: 29566 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 29250
| Posted: 10:37 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
Good for you!!!!!
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21
Posts: 1480 | Registered: Aug 2010
Member # 34823
| Posted: 11:25 PM, August 30th (Friday), 2013|
CC-- You rock.
I'm going to guess that you weren't even jockeying for this position -- and you were chosen anyway.
You are so much more amazing than you even realize. It seems that everyone sees it but you.
*Hah* to your X is way too benign in this situation. I think it calls for a *go fuck yourself, douchebag!* response.
(and PS. Read the PM that I sent you a coupla weeks ago would ya? It will make you happy)
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Posts: 7060 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 30742
| Posted: 6:43 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
Awesome!! The things we can do when nobody is dragging us down. Enjoy your trip.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Posts: 1143 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Member # 27457
| Posted: 7:26 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
SUCK IT XWH!!!! WHO IS THE FUCKING AWESOME ONE NOW!!??? WOOT WOOT!!!!
YOU GO GIRL!!! WELL EARNED! WELL DESERVED!
"Life's curve balls come out of nowhere.... just remember to duck and weave!"
ME - BW - 34
HIM - XWH - 38
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Posts: 2299 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 38405
| Posted: 7:50 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
FTG! AWESOME JOB to you!
Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!
Posts: 604 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Northeast US
Member # 30346
| Posted: 7:59 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 40, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, separated 3 years, together 17
Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings"
Posts: 3450 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 35229
| Posted: 8:42 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
....and that my friend is how you walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie (*best.tagline.ever*).
I like them apples!!
“If things start happening, don't worry, don't stew, just go right along and you'll start happening too.” -Dr Seuss
Posts: 4153 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 30341
| Posted: 11:38 AM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
Congratulations on the recognition at work!
Well fuck you xWHINDEED!!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Posts: 2755 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Member # 34146
| Posted: 12:05 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
Posts: 3017 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 3903
| Posted: 5:22 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
Oh and message to xWH:
Stick that in your pipe and smoke it!
Old fashioned saying but I did not define the exact pipe to which this saying refers....
After all this time I finally know that none of this was about me or some deficiency I brought to the marriage. He was the one with the problem.
Posts: 1411 | Registered: Mar 2004
Member # 27035
| Posted: 8:32 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013|
Whoohoo! That's awesome news!
Screw you X!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."
Posts: 4521 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 31468
| Posted: 2:55 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Great post lady - congrats cayc!
Together 9 yrs
Status: Divorced 4/27/11
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 4100 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 22722
| Posted: 6:53 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013|
huh, sure sounds like he was DAMN WRONG!
People DO like you, because you are competent and enjoyable to work with, too!
BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.
Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.
Posts: 990 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Member # 33488
| Posted: 8:26 PM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013|
You GO Girl!!!
True remorse isn't followed by a "but".
Posts: 1807 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
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