me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.
When you and your spouse are reconcilled (and you will know when that is) you will be able to move forward and become a better couple than you ever had been. It takes a lot of hard work but you will get there if your spouse is doing all the work and you can accept what happened. Accepting what happened was the hardest part for me.