me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...
When you and your spouse are reconcilled (and you will know when that is) you will be able to move forward and become a better couple than you ever had been. It takes a lot of hard work but you will get there if your spouse is doing all the work and you can accept what happened. Accepting what happened was the hardest part for me.