Topic: 1825 days
Member # 33338
| Posted: 5:23 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Tomorrow, when I wake up, it will be 5 years of sobriety for me. So today is 1,825 days.
It took me 12 years of in-and-out, half-assed efforts (court ordered and/or state board-ordered) to manage to put together a year. 2 outpatient rehab programs failed. 7 different sponsors, each chosen for how dysfunctional and/or unavailable they seemed. 12 years of lies, half measures, and doing everything I could to avoid actually getting sober. When I think of all the energy I expended trying to avoid the work of sobriety, it truly makes me sad and/or bemused.
5 years ago, I was given one last opportunity to recover. I was sent to a tiny little treatment center in the mountains with some women who were tough as nails but kind and good as gold. I was loved, but taught discipline. I was given the tools to make sense of my life and to move on without drugs or alcohol as my crutches.
I am so very grateful tonight. To those of you who are in the program, thanks for my sobriety.
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.
Posts: 2662 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Member # 31528
| Posted: 5:26 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
That's awesome! Congrats!
Posts: 33974 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 31722
| Posted: 5:49 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
***standing up, clapping*** for you HFSSC!
Congrats! You deserve to be so proud of yourself.
Posts: 1265 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Member # 26970
| Posted: 5:52 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
..that is truly a milestone to be proud of, for sure.
..BIG CONGRATULATIONS sent to you.
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf
Posts: 4103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 16024
| Posted: 6:09 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Posts: 36691 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 209
| Posted: 6:39 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Two boys: 17 and 13
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Member # 34262
| Posted: 6:43 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish
Posts: 2082 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Member # 6010
| Posted: 6:56 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Congrats. That's a long hard road, but so worth it.
My Blog: http://allofthewaystohell.com/
Posts: 4222 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA
Member # 26531
| Posted: 7:09 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Congrats!!! Way to Go!!
Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Posts: 24362 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 20150
| Posted: 7:15 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 17176 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 27035
| Posted: 7:20 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
That is truly amazing - congrats to you!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."
Posts: 4928 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 33247
| Posted: 7:24 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
You are AWESOME!! Congratulations.
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time
The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.
― Ernest Hemingway
Posts: 934 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 25560
| Posted: 7:28 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Bless you. As I sit here worrying about my DS I hope and pray that someday he will be able to say this. Amazing accomplishment., amazing work. Good for you!
Me-BS-60-Can't tell you how painful it was to change this number!
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!
Posts: 3284 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Member # 18449
| Posted: 7:35 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Posts: 11417 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 39665
| Posted: 7:47 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Stellar! And keep coming back.
2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.
Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
Member # 15300
| Posted: 8:22 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Congratulations. When I read your story, I had hope for the our members who are suffering with their children's addictions.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 7125 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 27196
| Posted: 9:14 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Don't know how I missed this!
Good for you HFSSC! So proud of you.
And Lynnm, thanks for that.
me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Member # 12041
| Posted: 9:19 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Nothing beats authenticity, being present, and LIVING.
We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.... Anais Nin
Posts: 43990 | Registered: Sep 2006
Member # 17460
| Posted: 9:20 AM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
Good for you!
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Member # 40076
| Posted: 1:23 PM, September 4th (Wednesday), 2013|
So inspirational, congrats!
me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
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