It's his birthday week, and I feel guilty for doing this on his birthday week. I feel like I should be putting him first, and stuffing my emotions down until after his birthday. But I felt like I was going to explode if I didn't say something to him. And now we're not talking, and I don't know what to do to fix it.
LG, I think your WH needs to grow up a little. No adult man has a "birthday week." He turned 28. BFD.
You shouldn't be putting him first. He should be putting you first. Let your emotions fly. Demand that he acts like a remorseful husband or give you 50% and let you move on to someone that will love you. This is his to fix, not yours.