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User Topic: Is it possible?
Kierst13
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Question  Posted: 9:56 AM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it possible that the APs and WSs aren't horrible people? I know some appear to have lives where all facets point to a bad person, but what about the ones that other than the betrayal of infidelity seem to have decent morals, a group of friends that are well respected, they come from a good upbringing, no drugs or alcohol in their life and no reason to believe they don't perform well at work and have the respect of their coworkers?

Is it possible for a person to be well rounded and a decent human being and get caught up in an affair, but otherwise be a basically good human being?


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course it is Kierst. That is what I said to my FWH on d-day. That I know he is a good man, a fucked up one, a flawed one, but a good man. I wouldn't be able to reconcile with him if he wasn't a good man.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9794 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you SMS, can the same be true of the AP?


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Revenge  Posted: 10:08 AM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Naw, all AP's are evil and trash. (tongue planted firmly in cheek)

All you have to do is look in the Wayward forum and know that they are good people, too. That being said, there are just some very evil and no good people in the world.

The AP in our situation is that way. If OW had just gone away and left us alone after FWH ended it, I don't feel I would have such animosity for OW. But, OW fished for 8 years after, and just couldn't leave us alone. OW wants to hurt me and FWH. What the hell did I do to it? I don't even know it!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9794 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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