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User Topic: could the OW be lurking?
sable
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I doubt it. She is too busy keeping up appearances elsewhere, preaching to others about how they should practice "kindness and love" to heal the world.


I'm the BW. M 10+ yrs, 1 child. Trying to R
DD 1: 7/18/11 Sexting/EA, caught before it went PA. Met OW#1 on AM
DD2: 5/31/13 - 6/1/13 2-Day PA with OW#2. Claimed she was a therapist and knew he was married.

Posts: 159 | Registered: Jul 2011
Girlietoo
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I don't think she would but just in case...."hi, PL, which married co-worker are you letting in your pants these days..hope your mom and dad are well".


Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

Posts: 247 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
RidingHealingRd
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Member # 33867
Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, MOWs BH refers to her as "A Moron" ~ I gather she probably can't read.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2123 | Registered: Nov 2011
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My User name is very similar to my email account. I am not sure she could connect the dots but she is smart enough to. She could be here, she might not but if she is she has read exactly what I and my husband think about her as well as all the positive posts and responses I have given to others. She would know 100% that there was no room in our M or our lives for her.

My FB page also screams that. For the friends of mine that know of the situation, which number very fee, they love how I throw digs at her all the time. My profile picture says it all....H and I happy, smiling and in love!!!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
absolut
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Default  Posted: 1:54 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not too worried because the low IQ ho uses the computer at the "liberry"

But just to be extra careful and protect my anonymity, I'm switching to Kettle One.


Posts: 421 | Registered: Dec 2012
shatteredheart7
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have thought about this. At first I doubted it, even though she seems to be obsessed with us. Showing up where we are all the time...

Then a few days ago I get a PM on here from a new member. Only has two posts that are both just a couple word statements, and was asking me questions about our life/sex life before and during his A. Was getting very personal.

Do I think it is her? You bet I do! I hope it is her, I want her to know that she didn't break me, that I am stronger now, and that she never had a chance in hell of him leaving me for her.


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
soconfusednow
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I don't think she would but just in case...."hi, PL, which married co-worker are you letting in your pants these days..hope your mom and dad are well".

Thanks you made me laugh


D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50
WH 52
NC-several
last broken NC 7/2013 (hopefully)
Married 29 years
2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?

Posts: 317 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Tesa
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His OW can't spell Surviving or Infidelity.

If she got someone else to search for her then I hope she knows my screen name. I'm posting nothing but the truth so she can suck it up, for all I care.


Posts: 1060 | Registered: Mar 2006
cancuncrushed
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i have wondered, but I doubt it. I think if she did even know about it, it would be because she sought pleasure from everyones pain. I do however, worry, that they will make an APP that will show you who has searched for you since the beginning of time. i really wouldnt want her to see how much investigating I have had to do. TT's


a trigger yesterday

Posts: 951 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have to wonder. I know the OW lurked here and read what I posted. Now-exH told me. Both of them did, during what was false R. I have no proof of it but I suspect they both continued lurking for years after ex left me. Not just on SI but on social media sites and my blog, too.

Apparently I am just that interesting, don'tcha know?


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12166 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
fourever
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think that if you are very worried about it, the Moderators may be able to look to see if a particular e-mail is registered.
Mods?


In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!


Posts: 877 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would doubt it but she stalked me on FB, by email, phone etc... so I wouldn't put it past her.

Actually I hope she, she can read how we are doing well in R. BTW if that's you DBC, we are going with the family to WDW then a romantic cruise in the spring!! SO K...M...A!


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I have thought of that., because ws is still involved with her. He has gotten into my phone before and I could see him telling her about SI. She's just the kind of bitch that would think it was fun to eff with me on here. I'm careful about what I say and take precautions with my info...kind of mix things up a bit, if you Kwim


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5140 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
RightTrack
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope she does, then she would get an idea of how little he actually cared for her. I think they could match up DDays, most of our DDays are theirs too.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Sep 2012
sailorgirl
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I honestly hope many OW's lurk here. They could learn so much, and maybe take advantage of the wisdom and necessary two-by-fours on the Wayward board.

If my H's former OW is reading:

I hope you fired your useless IC and got someone who will help you face your serious inner damage. Please do not attempt any intimate relationships until you do the hard work to become a strong, whole, emotionally healthy person. If you just can't stand to be alone, manipulate a single guy, for f@ck's sake.


Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling

Posts: 787 | Registered: Jan 2013
Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whorangutan is too self-centered for that. If the website is not entitled, "Poor Me," she wouldn't have any interest.


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1797 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW did lurk here; she and Trac-fone enjoyed harvesting my pain for entertainment, as well as to fuel their continued contact post d-day. ("Ooh! She's so mean! No wonder Fate joined us together!")

She may still be around. I don't know. I don' t think she knows who I am now, but don"t much care.

I do know she utterly lacks remorse. She and Trac-fone really were quite a match (though she's far too venal to leave her husband's money.)


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8849 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
metamorphisis
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Red  Posted: 10:13 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Ok everyone, it's one thing to discuss whether you think the OP is reading here. It is another thing to post to them. We as Staff work hard to keep you safe here. Of course you are ultimately responsible for the information you choose to share on the internet, but if there is a problem, please bring it to us. Otherwise, we ask that you don't post messages to people who may or may not be reading. We don't need a bunch of people registering for drama.

FLAMING & ATTACKING: Please refrain from attacking another member, publicly or by using the SI.com Private Message feature. Do not bait or call out others. This includes members and non-members.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

Posts: 44975 | Registered: Sep 2006
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

waiting for the right thing to appear that she can use against you with your WH?

*Use* how?

I think that I understand what your point is...that OW will be able to use the "she is saying <this> or <that> about you! What a wench!"

But if you think about it....if your WH is so willing to be influenced by *her* opinion.....then that doesn't say much for any R attempt on your part, does it? Not to mention the fact that, at this point, he should be NC with her and shouldn't even KNOW whether she is reading your shit or not, right?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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