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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

EZ I think you know the answer to that question.
You won't be able to trust ever again.
Lets face it, most of us who went through the shitstorm, and come out R on the other side, know that if it were ever to happen again we'd be gone.
I know that I love my H, and I know he loves me, but if for some reason that crazy switch ever got turned back on that would be it I would done. I also know, and you do too, that we would be absolutlely fine.

Life is short, do you want to spend the rest of it second guessing yourself, your spouse? I get what you are saying abou the dogs, I do. Just be thankful that it's just dogs, and not kids. I am of firm belief that everything happens for a reason. This is your chance to decide what is next. The world lays before you. What you do with it is totally up to you.

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Erzulie)) remember you as we'll. I totally understand the doggie mom thoughts.

Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Erzulie, bumping to see how you are???

"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for checking on me.

I am not doing well. My head hurts so bad, I can barely stand up or function. I know it is dehydration related ... I don't remember ever crying this much before. I have avoided alcohol entirely and just had a little coffee this morning ... and trying to drink a lot of fluids. Zero interest in food. And, my boobs ache. Maybe my hormones are mourning, too?

My emotions are all over the map.

Physically, I feel like a bomb went off in my heart. Nothing else is working properly.

I have to find a way to get my headache under control. And I know I need to eat, but I am so nauseous.

I want to call my mom, but I just can't.

A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.

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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my God, I'm so sorry. So, so sorry. I'm in tears for you.
I'm a (relative) newbie and I just find your story so heartbreaking.

I hope you can get some more fluids in you and kick the headache. You're so not alone.

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can someone call your mom for you? I will--PM me and I can do it right away.

Your headache is likely dehydration and lack of food. Try and get something down. Regular Coca-Cola is always good--it tends to "de-nauseate."


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, Erzulie

Please sip some water or gatorade. Your headache is making everything else seem worse. When you feel better you will have a different outlook.

I was so sad to see your post

Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)

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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..may i gently suggest that you follow your instincts and call your MOM.. that's what moms are for..

..hope you can lose the headache as well..


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf

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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sweetie, can you call your doctor? He/she may be able to give you something to help you along for this horrid anxiety. I know how it feels to have a lump in your tummy and throat so great you can't get anything down.

I am so sorry

Huge hugs....

Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS & 20 mo. and 2 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
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