Topic: Single OW = make believe wife
Member # 29288
| Posted: 1:33 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013|
OW tried this with FWH as well. She was fixing up a place that she referred to as "theirs". She got mad at him because he kept telling her that he would bring some of his things over--but never did. (Can you say "Avoid conflict at all costs?") She tried the cooking dinner things, too. FWH said she was a terrible cook.
Him--FWH (53)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 20 years
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
Posts: 1334 | Registered: Aug 2010
Member # 39858
| Posted: 5:56 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013|
This makes me sick and sad for the faithful BS who have endured this awful scenario.
My husband's EA lived out of state, but I have no doubt things could very well have progressed to this level if they had been closer.
She has one grown son and is currently married to an older man who has provided her with a very comfortable lifestyle.
She can expose her self to melanoma risks and leather skin by going to tanning beds year round, sleep all night every night, get her fancy nails done every week, and spend money on her wardrobe/lingerie without worrying making sure his child support gets paid (he has a child out of wedlock from before we met.)
I'd like to see how these bimbos hold up under real pressure...you know, like cleaning up the bathroom when your WS is sick with a stomach virus, folding their worn out underwear, salsa all over the ceiling due to a malfunctioning garbage disposal, and keeping up with the demands of young children, including the sleepless nights that come with the territory.
She wouldn't have made it a full 12 hours in his REAL LIFE.
BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.
Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
Member # 37152
| Posted: 8:26 PM, September 21st (Saturday), 2013|
My OW single living the hi drama high romance lots of travel life
My son comes home from each time WH has her with them on their days mad about how needy she is
She has lectured me about holding up their relationship and I should just let WH go
She tells me about how we should all just be able to get along and blames me for the lack of peace
She is rude condecedinging and accuses me of harassment and stalking
I hate them both right now
A friend can tell you things you don't want to tell yourself
BS Me 43
DD June 2nd '12
LTA (2+ yrs)
False R Many times from July '12 till now forced D
OW: acting like she is the wife
Posts: 186 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Guelph
Member # 20150
| Posted: 10:45 AM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013|
Unbelievable what these clowns are capable of.
Fuckwitch had Babycakes by the balls so badly that she had apparently decreed he was to be faithful to both of us ONLY and not to dabble with any of his other playthings as long as they were an item.
He tried to break it off three times before we moved into the dream house, but then she decided to blow it all out of the water with a phone call in the end.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:46 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 17551 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 40410
| Posted: 12:45 PM, September 22nd (Sunday), 2013|
WH did this as well. He had her dogs vet information in his phone, helped her w things she needed. He had things at her apartment, even before he secretly moved in with her, then brought everything home and back again twice in trash bags after they broke up and got back together, while supposedly in long distance R with me.
He told MC that "it wasn't fantasy life bc they worked through real life issues together" (one of those being her heavy drinking apparently, that ended with him very hurt and appalled that she would chose being out drinking, having fun and lying over a real relationship w him)
Really WH? What did you do to me for yrs over a decade, culminating in your DUI and me driving you around for months when you couldn't drive? But I shouldn't still be that upset about, bc after all, you partially realized bc of her what real love is, and you don't feel that for me.
At least, I know where things stand and what I need to do for myself.
The insanity of it boggles my mind though. At one point MC said to me "think about who he is acting that the "wife" is here, and how you really want to live your life" - that really hit home in a sad, awful way.
Posts: 103 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 40761
| Posted: 11:04 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013|
this is exactly what my WH did w/ his 21 yo old whore. she's a single party girl living alone and he can escape me and our children who are bringing him down to go have the carefree life he deserves. meet up for lunch, cook dinner, go out for drinks, go to sporting events together. whatever fun thing she felt like doing if he could pull it off without "arising suspicion" from me (so he thought) he would be there. funny how she doesn't catch on that he's not her husband and he only spends the time with her when it can be squeezed in around his real life. funny how he would never sacrifice his real family to be with her because as much as he might enjoy feigning the single no kids life and being doted on by her we're still number 1. as hard as she tries as much as she gives up she can lay down everything for him and he will still never leave us.
me: BS 39 | stbxWH: 46
DDAY: Aug12... A continued "underground"
Separated Nov13 and Divorcing
OC Born May 14
Posts: 129 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 35787
| Posted: 1:11 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013|
You are not alone. My WH's other women were either single or in the process of contemplating and going through a divorce.
Me: 37 and awesome
Him: 42 and not so awesome
OW1: 47 and desperate OW2: 34, freshly divorced, was once my friend OW3: is OW1 who took in WH during seperation.
Posts: 201 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Michigan
Member # 33128
| Posted: 1:34 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013|
I am in the club of single ow. She thought he belonged to her. And dday # 2 was yesterday after a yr of false R. Come to find out she told him that she will always and forever want him.
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
Posts: 2791 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 37752
| Posted: 9:34 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013|
Yep. WH 44
Gross. And why not just shoot me?
Posts: 88 | Registered: Dec 2012
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