Topic: I can't believe this, but D-Day #2 - 9.6.13
Member # 39836
| Posted: 4:52 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013|
(((Many hugs to you)))
You are doing the right thing, stay strong.
I have felt that you are somewhat of a twin to me as our profiles are so similar. You will get through this.
Entering R slowly and cautiously...
Posts: 394 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 34353
| Posted: 4:57 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013|
I am sorry that you are facing this again. Good for you for going NC
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1530 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 34827
| Posted: 6:52 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013|
I'm so sorry oc...when I read, I want the M but I need to work some shit out...that says, I want you to wait because I'm not ready to be committed, but don't want you to be single cuz I might want you back....grrr Dammit second DD just sucks.
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..divorced slut who prefers committed men, specializing in befriending and bopping the fathers of her kids team mates
Posts: 3985 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 35215
| Posted: 6:57 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013|
If there ever is a sign for a false R, it's the wayward saying they want to save it, and doing nothing in order to do so. BTDT, got the bloodstained tshirt.
I got that shirt!
Many hugs to to you (((oldcow18))) you are doing the right thing! Stay strong he's a coward!!!!
BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
"If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth." -Carl Sagan
Posts: 2251 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Member # 23777
| Posted: 10:16 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013|
You will get through this.
The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
DDAYs TOO MANY
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.
Posts: 1354 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
Member # 33226
| Posted: 10:46 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013|
(((((oldcow))))) Sending you strength, honey.
You can call me NIK
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 39669
| Posted: 1:25 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013|
((Sending you lots of hugs))
Wants nothing to do with our daughter
Posts: 75 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Newwhere
Member # 32265
| Posted: 5:38 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013|
OldCow, thinking of you and sending hugs.
Posts: 579 | Registered: May 2011
Member # 38141
| Posted: 6:06 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013|
I am actually feeling some peace. I mean, total devastation yet again, but to have the truth FINALLY has been calming. I can work with the truth, I can't work with lies and gaslighting. I was literally going crazy.
Thinking about you -
I totally get the devastation/truth/peace/calming thing. I'm just sorry you had the lies/gaslighting and devastation.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.
Posts: 380 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 27871
| Posted: 9:34 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013|
Thinking of you. Sending you strength, and peace. You can are strong.
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.
Posts: 759 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
Member # 39801
| Posted: 12:14 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013|
OC I get the "truth" thing too.
I am where you've been for the past 3 months.
I am done with the words and waiting for the action. There's been some, but not enough.
I did file already so that has been my backup.
I keep reminding myself that I am not afraid to be divorced. I am not afraid of the life I would have without him.
I do NOT want to live in a marriage with someone who is not committed to me/the marriage 100%.
His honesty at this point (although a little late) is better than the continued lies and TT.
Now you have the power to make an informed decision.
And someone else said it as well...he may still want you as the backup plan. It's up to you whether or not you allow that.
I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13
Posts: 452 | Registered: Jul 2013
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