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User Topic: I can't believe this, but D-Day #2 - 9.6.13
ILINIA
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Member # 39836
Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Many hugs to you)))

You are doing the right thing, stay strong.

I have felt that you are somewhat of a twin to me as our profiles are so similar. You will get through this.



Entering R slowly and cautiously...

Posts: 492 | Registered: Jul 2013
jjsr
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Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry that you are facing this again. Good for you for going NC


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry oc...when I read, I want the M but I need to work some shit out...that says, I want you to wait because I'm not ready to be committed, but don't want you to be single cuz I might want you back....grrr Dammit second DD just sucks.
Buzzkill..hmmm


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5141 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If there ever is a sign for a false R, it's the wayward saying they want to save it, and doing nothing in order to do so. BTDT, got the bloodstained tshirt.

I got that shirt!

Many hugs to to you (((oldcow18))) you are doing the right thing! Stay strong he's a coward!!!!


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
selkiescot
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Member # 23777
Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((oldcow18)))))))
You will get through this.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1402 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((oldcow))))) Sending you strength, honey.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25774 | Registered: Aug 2011
Ariabook
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Sending you lots of hugs))


Separated
Wants nothing to do with our daughter
No Contact

Posts: 75 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Newwhere
soveryweary
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Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OldCow, thinking of you and sending hugs.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
stunnedin12
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Member # 38141
Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am actually feeling some peace. I mean, total devastation yet again, but to have the truth FINALLY has been calming. I can work with the truth, I can't work with lies and gaslighting. I was literally going crazy
.

Thinking about you -

I totally get the devastation/truth/peace/calming thing. I'm just sorry you had the lies/gaslighting and devastation.


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 477 | Registered: Jan 2013
openedupmyeyes
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((OC)))))
Thinking of you. Sending you strength, and peace. You can are strong.


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 765 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
myperfectlife
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OC I get the "truth" thing too.
I am where you've been for the past 3 months.
I am done with the words and waiting for the action. There's been some, but not enough.
I did file already so that has been my backup.
I keep reminding myself that I am not afraid to be divorced. I am not afraid of the life I would have without him.
I do NOT want to live in a marriage with someone who is not committed to me/the marriage 100%.
His honesty at this point (although a little late) is better than the continued lies and TT.
Now you have the power to make an informed decision.
And someone else said it as well...he may still want you as the backup plan. It's up to you whether or not you allow that.
(((hugs)))


I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

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