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User Topic: Thoughts after a year as a mod/Ask the staff
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Cool  Posted: 3:13 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The other day I realized that I had been a moderator here for over a year. The same goes for Jo and AN. This was a big realization and made me reflect back on my days here at SI.

I still remember finding SI for the first time just over six years ago. I was very frustrated that it took 30 or so minutes for my membership to be approved. I also remember how relieved I was that people responded to my first post, and actually understood! Not long after I found DS’s profile and realized that you actually could survive this.

After a while, it was time to move to the next step. We attended a Get together. In attendance were Threnody and Mr. T, Fallen and others. Going to that was totally out of my comfort zone. BR was afraid she’d be stoned as a WS. I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to hold a conversation with Thren. It turned out to be amazing, life changing even. Since then we’ve hosted several ourselves, and attended them all over the US and Canada.

Throughout this all I saw the staff, and wondered how SI worked. The mods were all funny, compassionate, and didn’t hesitate to step in when necessary. They all seemed healed. That was something I aspired to. A funny thing happened as time passed. Healing did happen. Mine, BR’s, our marriage. Almost two years ago I was asked to be a Guide, and just over a year ago a Mod. It’s an honor that I don’t take lightly. As I recall I moved a thread accidentally on my first day.

Thinking about this all made me think of some of the things I always wondered, and some of the questions I’ve seen. I’d like to take this opportunity to answer some of those questions, and then open it up for the rest of you to ask questions for the Staff to answer.

• We Moderate to the Guidelines. Please take a moment to read them if you haven’t recently.
• Yes we can see who is active on the site. No we can’t tell which forum you’re on.
• It’s not personal. We don’t flag or PM because we don’t like “you”. We flag or PM because you’ve done something to violate the Guidelines.
• If we send a PM, at least acknowledge it. Did you get the point? Did it piss you off? Do you understand? Let us know.
• We don’t do anything unilaterally. We always discuss an issue before acting.
• We universally hate the Phrase “No Stop Sign So…..”
• Someone is almost always here, even if you don’t see us. We see you.
• Yes we read every post. We don’t always read them as soon as they’re written, but we get to them.

That’s it for a start. Feel free to ask any other questions you might have


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 35366 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We universally hate the Phrase “No Stop Sign So…..”

I'd like to make a motion to ban anybody who uses this phrase ever again. Will somebody second this motion?


Posts: 13356 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

***waves hand in the air wildly***


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 34749 | Registered: Sep 2007
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 35366 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes we read every post. We don’t always read them as soon as they’re written, but we get to them.

Well.. shit. Sorry.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7116 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Luv ya AN!

Posts: 13356 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 34749 | Registered: Sep 2007
RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No Stop Sign So…

Just thought I would say thanks for all you mods do


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

Posts: 957 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Midwest
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No stop sign, soo....

I can't believe it's been a year already. Seems like just yesterday.

Every one of the mods/guides kick ass. Thank you so much for being there.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7033 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oy, WH5, look what you started .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 34749 | Registered: Sep 2007
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We universally hate the Phrase “No Stop Sign So…..”

So I'm not the only one who grits their teeth when I see this?

Congrats y'all on Modding for a year+. Keep up the good work.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"You can do it!" - R. Schneider


Posts: 5465 | Registered: Nov 2011
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just telling MH the other day how great you all (Guides too!!!) have fit in and come together

It is such a joy to hang with you all in the Mod forum and Guide ditch...MH and I are so, so blessed to have you here and in our lives

Thank you so much!!! You all truly do make a difference!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 192070 | Registered: May 2002
20WrongsVs1
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a troublemaker who's been flagged/warned/chastised and I recognize how difficult your job must be. Thank you for doing it.

Watching SportsCenter just now, and on the little blackboard over his shoulder Woody Paige has written:

If people could read my mind, I'd get punched in the face a lot.

That would've been pre-DDay 20W's tagline


^^Everything I write, IMHO & YMMV.^^
fWW: 42, amazing H and two elementary-age kids.
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing & rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about.

Posts: 778 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NO...STOP...SIGN...SO...

What's up?

Love what you mods do, keep up the good work.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


Posts: 1035 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am glad that everyone of my contributions get seen!

(but seriously, thanks to you, all the guides, and MH and DS for all you do---as well as the rest of the SI community)


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


Posts: 1267 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
unfound
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there really a chinchilla covered lounger and fancy soaps in the Mod bathroom?

WH5, I remember when you and BR came on SI . You've both come such a long way and are both an inspiration, as a couple and now, you, as a Mod, as are our other Mods and Guides.

I can't imagine the time and hard work you put in behind the scenes, but I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.

Here's to your first year, and many more to follow!!!


ka-mai
*******************
Hey you, would you help me to carry the stone ...

Posts: 14749 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
click4it
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm one of the longest quirky members of SI. Sorry its my home and I'm not leaving.

I wonder if y'all talk about the old members who don't go away?


Me: 41
Two boys: 16 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25502 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They've outsourced the bathroom


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 35366 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another beginning I personally hate is "I haven't read all the responses but blah blah blah."


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4123 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, September 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We universally hate the Phrase “No Stop Sign So…..”

I always thought that was sort of like someone calling into a radio show and saying "Long time listener, first time caller!" You know, sort of obligatory.

And then there was the time when I said "I see that there's a stop sign but I'm going to post anyway... Note to anybody else who is rule following challenged: You'll miss out on a lot of the really good non stop sign threads in Wayward if you do that.

[This message edited by h0peless at 5:30 PM, September 6th (Friday)]


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