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User Topic: Renewing the art of kissing
ccw82
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let's see if this works...

Our smooch!

[This message edited by ccw82 at 6:57 PM, September 9th (Monday)]


Me: 31
WH (1DumbHusband): 35
Married 5 years, together 7 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
TTs that came out as late as January 2014

"One is not tempted by that he does not want."


Posts: 136 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So that's what you two look like!!!!! Now, get down to forgiving each other and get on with living in a better world!!!!!!!!!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We kiss all the time now. We lost it during the affair years. Now, its one of the better things we've gotten back.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am right there with you Samantha....it just calms my day now. Before it was such an after thought....

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am right there with you Samantha....it just calms my day now. Before it was such an after thought....

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
ccw82
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage



TxsT, here is a better picture of us!


Me: 31
WH (1DumbHusband): 35
Married 5 years, together 7 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
TTs that came out as late as January 2014

"One is not tempted by that he does not want."


Posts: 136 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You two are cute!!!!! How do I add a picture?????


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
looking forward
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey pain...
Accepting your challenge!
This is one of the photos taken last year on our 40th wedding anniversary. We returned to the church where we were married.
My H is an excellent kisser.
We spend a lot of time kissing......oh, and other stuff, too ...Yes, we are in our 60s.
~ lf

[This message edited by looking forward at 9:29 PM, September 9th (Monday)]


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

Posts: 2854 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: Where a river runs through it
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't even know if I have one of us kissing!!!!! My kids, both boys, would have never tolerated taking such a picture.

Sheesh!!!

Looking...a what a beautiful church.....um yeah and a passionate kiss too

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Twentyplus
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have so truly enjoyed this thread...all the words and the photos. Kissing my H has been one of the sublime joys of my life. While it is usually so again, there are still occasional triggers of H and his OW locked in the same embrace, fleeting images of the same shared caress. Just had one of those "movies" yesterday and it leveled me. I want to be free of it. Maybe someday soon. Maybe more kissing will help.


"But we must supply our own light." - Stanley Kubrick


Posts: 67 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: The Big Blue Sea
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Twenty Plus....reading your little story in your signature shows me how much love you have for your H. I thought I was doing bad with 4 years but 10 wow.....that's a very long time. I am really glad you got some big positive out of this thread. That's why I thought of it....I want to bring some smiles to a lot of people who might not get many each and every day. Thank you for sharing. I too am going to go and smooch my love tonight!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
1DumbHusband
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TxsT: thanks for starting this thread and PainPain thanks for the photo challenge. I can say I have a greater appreciation for every kiss CCW now gives me. They're all cherished (as they should have been all along) and I realize I could lose them at any day! It's also nice to see pictures of us kissing and then actually kiss afterwards!


Me: FWH 34
Her: 31 and deserving much better than I've given her (CCW82)
Married 4 years, together 6 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
"Don't give up. You're married until you're not. You never know what tomorrow will bring."

Posts: 121 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Dallas
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1DH.....,glad to help out. I am on a mission to be more positive in posting and starting threads that have hope, happiness and a bit of a smile. We all could use a little relief. So many of us are at 1 year, so many are just starting and even more have been here for a very long time. If we can all stand up just for a minute and think of good.....maybe we will all slightly shift towards the light.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ps.....you are a cutie 1DW


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Patchy
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, a week after Dday #1 I was able to romantically lean over the couch to give my guy a make out session he would never forget. It was amazing and lead to the most amazing sex I'd ever had.

For a while I was able to enjoy kissing off and on,, but it was always hard since kissing is the main intimate thing he did with her. SO glad there was no sex. I seriously don't know how anyone recovers from that. But the fact that he was "in love" with a woman he thought about the second he woke up and all day long and found opportunities to meet her and hold her and tell her he loved her and kiss her .... makes even watching people kiss on tv very hard for me.

After Dday #2, when he fell back in love with me and told me he never was in love with her like he thought, for a while I could enjoy kissing again ... on occasion. And then it went away. Any time there was a lingering kiss, eventually the mind movies came and I'd have to pull away. So ... without even being conscious of it at first, I just stopped kissing more than quick kisses. It was pretty hard on him at first and I think he really didn't get it. I think he "might" get it more now, and doesn't push the issue at all anymore.

Just last week I brought this very thing up at counseling. It's my most difficult trigger and the one that affects him the most.

Sorry to be a downer on your thread that was meant to be light. :/ Lookomg forward to a day I can be excited about kissing the way you describe again. It does happen on occasion, but pretty rare these days. :(


Me BS 44
Him FWS 45
Married 23 Years
DDay 1 July 2012
DDay 2 Christmas Day 2013 same woman
EA with kissing, very strong bond and talk of leaving spouses for each other.

Posts: 93 | Registered: May 2013
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Patchy....to me there are no more downers.....just new realities. I am sorry that this act has become a huge trigger for you. It is as big of a trigger as the reflection I get when my H and I connect sexually in a way that has been missing for far too many years. I get that same aha moment after making love to him and I have to strike it from my mind as quickly as it enters. Yes it is hard to know that my H was sexually intimate with another person.....not sure I will ever be completely over the twang I get when I realize I could have lost those wonderful moments forever with my H. But really, the worst of it all was how deeply in love he felt he had fallen for someone who has been proven to love the idea of them more then the them.....she manipulated that love, pulled it from him only to throw it back at him in silence and unreturned words. She never said she loved him to him once during the 4 year A....she reserved that for when he had NCed her and realized what a sham the whole thing was to begin with. Sometimes I wonder who really got hurt the most here. Many times I fear his own persona was so cruelly treated by someone who had no real interest in him except her own. And to almost throw 32 years away because of this blind love....it is no wonder my H is lost in his own world of hurt.

I hope one day you and I can relish in Knowling that everything will be ok. That this part of our lives is completely behind us.....this might take years but I am willing to tow the effort it will take to close my eyes and never see her again with him, ever!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
olwen
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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So lovely to hear these happy stories

Oh yes there has been a lot more kissing in this house lately. He says it's cos he nearly lost me and now can't get close enough.

We discovered we had actually forgotten how to French kiss properly!!! It was a bit awkward at first but we are really getting into the swing now lol.

I love this thread so much it's got me thinking and I have started another about improved sex life too. after all after improved kissing....well it kinda follows on doesn't it


Together 19yrs
me BS 36
him WS 41 (silent lucidity)
ea 1 facebook flirting with an ex 2011
ea/pa - co worker 6wks feb to apr2013 pa for 1 wk with sex one time
too much tt to count = latest tt 30/7/14

Posts: 804 | Registered: Jul 2013
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thats how I got the idea to start this thread in the first place. I had to drive our dog to the kennel for the weekend(45 minute drive round trip) and I got smiling over the wonderful kiss we had when he left that morning. I haven't thought about a kiss in 20 years, so the idea of thinking of one now made my mind wander to how wonderful life has become now that kisses mean so much more again.

Thank you everyone for contributing

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
confused615
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I realized,after dday, that WH and I hadn't REALLY kissed in a long time. And I missed it.

We kiss a lot now..several times a day. My FWH is(OMgoodness...I just typed an "F" there...first time since January..and it *feels* RIGHT) an amazing kisser. He makes my knees weak..even after 15 years together.

Kissing him is one of my favorite past times.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7678 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, September 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWH is(OMgoodness...I just typed an "F" there...first time since January..and it *feels* RIGHT)

Wonderful confused'!!!!! I remember the first time I used FWH......now I used RH or just H......progress, even the smallest steps feel so wonderful don't they???????

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


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