I never approved the expenditures and they did come from $ in joint account
It is joint account, there is no requirement that you approve the expenditures.
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The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
And BTW, he isn't in R if he refuses to give you the information you need to start to heal. He's just sorry he was caught.
D-Day, June 10, 2012