My knight in shining armor turned out to be nothing more than a little boy playing dress-up.
BS 26, WS 29. D after D-Day#2, False R, M, and a lot of regret. Hate that douche.
But you know what? That guy was right. You need to figure the emergency contact thing out. I exited my abusive marriage friendless and with no relatives in the area. I had to ask people who were strangers to me, or nearly so, if they would please be my emergency contacts for me & my kids. It was SO AWKWARD!!! I had to go door to door in my neighborhood and introduce myself to people I'd been living side-by-side with for years. Yet we didn't know each other because of the abuse & isolation. It was so embarrassing, yet everyone responded very well. Totally understood, very accepting, offered to help. It was necessary for me & the kids to know our neighbors & be known by them in case of emergency.
It's a hard slap in the face when you realize you're totally freaking alone thanks to abuse & resulting isolation. It's so hard to break out of the conditioning and reach out to people.
Every single woman needs to have emergency contacts. Ignore the hurtful parts of what that man said to you & take action to take care of this aspect of starting your life over, okay?
I am NOT going to let STBX ruin my life. I'm not. I'm going to rebuild my life, I'm going to be a good example & role model to my kids. I have goals. My progress is slow, but I'm getting there. What are your goals? Do you have to stay in your city? Is there a library nearby that might have good self-help books you could check out for free? Are there any support groups you could join? Are you open to the idea of attending a church or other spiritual group? Have you thought about registering at meetup.com? Have you thought about volunteering in your community? These are all ways to meet people, to get you out of any stagnation, to change your routine & invite a new dynamic into your life.
What do you think?