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User Topic: NBs
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, September 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

New Beginnings are sometimes crafting a new life or learning to live with divorce.

I have over done my NB and would like to ask on average how many nights per week are you out? Assuming a full time job etc. Thank you I am burning the candles at both ends and don't want to neglect new friends but am losing touch with myself. Plus I need to focus because my ex is waging a battle. I like this NB it is just wearing me out


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traicionada
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Cool  Posted: 7:39 AM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Depends on the week and what you're comfortable with. For example, last week, I went out three nights but this coming week I have events for every night


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Posts: 3329 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I go out maybe once a week - that's including weekends. One reason is to not spend money I don't have. Another reason is my job. A groggy/tired teacher does not mix well with a roomful of third graders.

[This message edited by travels at 9:22 AM, September 8th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It depends on what else is going on in my life. Lately, I've been very content to come home after work and have the down time. I think that has a lot to do with how much energy being where I work sucks out of me.

But even "normally" I usually do my going out on the weekends, and don't do much during the work week. I'm sure it's got something to do with me being an introvert.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My NB consists of attending active meetups, like hiking and birding. I usually just do one a week. I've also been pushing myself to go out for other entertainment. I went to hear a local band play at a bar on Friday night. They were very good, but even though I was raised in a bar, I still don't feel comfortable going by myself. I had a few drinks purchased for me, and I don't know how to react to that It's been a long time...


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Posts: 20284 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It varies greatly week to week. You need to set a pace that matches your energy levels, commitments, and current needs.


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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The past year, close to every night, if you count being in class.

I'd like to be out 3-4 nights a week.


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This helps thank you!

I have retired friends and although they look in their early 40's I am tired.

I will start with no late nights during the work week- I am 20+ years younger than them but I am exhausted!

I am an introvert and labeled an extrovert so emotionally I am .

Thank you again!


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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have 3 small children who go to their dads for 24 hours each weekend (average).

I don't really go out much in the week but that 24 hours... that's my time to be a real life adult and not just a Mum.


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Posts: 187 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: England
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am an introvert and labeled an extrovert so emotionally I am

This is me, my SO kills me when we are together more than a few days.


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