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User Topic: AP, who are they?
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She answers the phone for a lawn care company. She also is a Christian youth camp counselor.

Dday June 2013

"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW# 1 ?slut from a bar he didn't know her name.
OW# 2 ? Recent hs graduate signing up for the national guard. He didn't know her name either
OW #3 slut in the national guard he had an ea/ pa with for 5 weeks. She laughed at every pathetic joke he told.
Ow# 4- again ? He didn't know her name either.
Ow# 5 Coworker in the national guard.

Me-BS 33, him-WH 31
Dday 10-30-12 the day before Halloween
Married 10 yrs
DS-14, DD-9, DS-2, DD-5m
Currently trying to R

Posts: 74 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe she's a professional fat ass when she's not banging married/committed men. I don't think it pays very well, though.

Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1819 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

multi-ONSs: sex workers, hook-ups met at dance clubs and bars, women in his industry (which doesn't have many women in it, btw)

MOW #1: office worker of business XWS was distributor for; now pursing nursing career, still married but her spouse is unaware

MOW #2 (now divorced): executive of business XWS is distributor for; on a job hunt to move to our city so they can marry and live happily ever after

Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween

Posts: 168 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southern US
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

School nurse who he found on craigslist. She invites men to her apt where her children live without knowing their real name apparently. Thats what happened in his case. Her hubby lived there too.

She also sent my fWH pics of her with disabled school children. That could get her fired if my fWH hadn't deleted them.

My high school college first love cheated on me with a nurse who he met while hospitalized. Needless to say nurses are a trigger for me.

[This message edited by whattheh at 4:28 PM, November 1st (Friday)]

BW- mid 50's (me)
fWH-late 50's
M 33 T 35
DD-Early 2013 PA 2010
In R but I have PTSD...

Posts: 569 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ow#1 ex wwf#2 disability pill junkie
OW #2 cheat mate when married to first wife; again disability SSI welfare loser
MOW#3 trailer park ho part-time school bus driver
OW#4 waitress at a local diner
and the rest...who cares

Posts: 1127 | Registered: Feb 2007
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't get me started-oh well here I go:

High school graduate.

Unable to keep a job because it's too difficult to keep to a schedule.

Single mother.

Uses "dating sites" to hook up with pathetic loser WHs.


History of As with married men. Not fussy about knowing their names or ages before having sex (in her father's living room on the hide-a-bed).

History of substance abuse.

Had outstanding warrants.

Shoplifter. Broke into school's computer system to change grades.

Perpetual victim.

My WH called the AP a "user-loser".

[This message edited by struggling16 at 6:53 PM, November 1st (Friday)]

Posts: 723 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Was, a law student when she picked him up in a bar. He did her for a month, never took her out, got bored and quit calling her.
19 years later……
She got on the same BOD as him.
She's a partner at a law firm (she married that), a lobbyist, and per my fwh, is mediocre at both.
Severe depression, low, low, self-esteem, bulimic, frumpy dresser, white trash.
Followed his career.
Her 1st A w/mm when she was an undergrad.
no children of her own
Looking for her next jump, money and nice home for prestige.

In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!

Posts: 877 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A medical student... In her second year of med school. My STBXH was 10 years older than her.

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 640 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does something for the state, in medicare. Can't remember.

WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

38, same age as STBXWW, deadbeat father of 4 kids to 3 different women. Arrested a month ago for 2nd degree assault among other charges. Arrested earlier in the month for suspended license. Likes video games, drinking beer and banging my WW. No job apparently. Lives with his mommy. He's a real catch. There is a special place in Hell for both of them.

[This message edited by coldshot at 3:23 PM, November 1st (Friday)]

"The liar's punishment is, not in the least that she is not believed, but that she cannot believe anyone else." -- George B. Shaw

Posts: 46 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: coldshot
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exwh told me she worked for H & M, a swedish clothing store, when he met her. But he told me he dated his nurse.

So, in other words I will never know.

All I know is that she is a Christian and she is from Ethiopia. She is now a SAHM.

Posts: 1116 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Europe
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let me see, #1 fellow nursing student
#2 Nurse
#3 Nurse
#4 Um let's see, oh another nurse
I think I see a pattern....

Me BS 54
WH 55
Married 34 years
2 grown sons
2 PA ? EA's didn't develop due to discovery

Posts: 85 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest USA
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A school custodian and now a works on broken things from schools and kills bugs at schools. And her other job is screwing coworker and having an LTA with my wh! She is a real peach!

BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

Posts: 2791 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW1- student in his class, they just wrote love letters to each other supposedly
OW2- coworker at movie theater, wrote emails to each other
OW3- different coworker at movie theater, this one he actually kissed and we almost divorced
OW4- ex-gf (Stay at home mom) from his high school days that he started talking to on myspace, email, and phone while her husband was deployed to Iraq
OW5- found him again talking to ex-gf by email and was also talking to someone he met on World of Warcraft at same time, I think she was a student
OW6- 19 yr old model he met on IMVU, she was engaged to a college student her age but I think they ended it after I messaged him and told him about A

Me- BW 31, WH- 29
M 11 yrs Together 13
2 kids (special needs)
Last Dday 9/26/13 EA w/ 19 yr old OW, too many prior EAs to list, one he kissed
My value hasn't decreased based on his inability to see my worth.

Posts: 38 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ow single 25 yr old just out of college working as an engineering intern. Met my H and told her coworkers she was going to get him. Found out where he worked and called an acquaintance getting his info. She stalked him and then got to know him. Unemployed at the moment.
He obviously failed miserably in his boundaries.
Found out she had several affairs all with MM. She's sick in the head.
Not surprised by all the nurses..
When my H was in the hospital last year had to call the nurse manager in his unit. His nurse kept firting and coming on to him. She was reassigned and reprimanded. I had recorded her after the first time.

[This message edited by Dreamland at 4:06 PM, November 1st (Friday)]

Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lame lounge/cabaret singer and washed up theme park diva.
I think she couldn't believe he chose me over her. Cus like, she's so special, and stuff.
She's nothing but a gumdrop -artificial and cheap.

Me (50)BW
Him (50) WH
M 25 years(together26)
DD#1 5/8/09 DD#2 12/5/09 (continued contact)
12 month EA/PA
DS20, DS8
In R

Posts: 129 | Registered: Aug 2010
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mother of three- one if them under the age of one. No not my H's.
she was financial advisor and came from a family that had some money.
She was going to get him back in track in the field he had been laid off in during the recession.

And she was a serial OW. Admitted it to him and get this..... He ADMIRED her honesty about it. Are you effing serious right now?

Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

College dropout, had no job during either times of his A with her, still lives at home with her parents (where they had sex ), short, heavy-set, attention-starved, frequently touts how many men she bangs on twitter, and did I mention INCREDIBLY attention-starved?

But then again, so is WH, so I guess when they were banging each other and he felt such a "deep connection" with someone who gave him mediocre sex, I guess that makes them even in the attention-starved department

Him (31): Taurus517 (17 mon EA/PA); others
Me (27): 3mo EA/PA (kissed once)
One too many D-days
(Full story: see profile)

Posts: 230 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Atlanta, GA
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A skanky engaged OW. A fellow co worker who expressed her desire to give WH "advice" during my pregnancy.

She was a mother. Grand mother. Someone 20 years older than I.


What kind of woman knowingly enter an A with a married man expecting their first child. After years if infertility?!

Disgusting. Pathetic.

ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.

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