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User Topic: He gave the winning answer.
Flatlined123
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Content  Posted: 7:39 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H and I were talking in the car today and I asked him what he would do if he ever felt the way he did before the affair happened again. How does he know he won't do it again?

His answer was: No matter what, I will never hurt you like that again. I've seen you struggle with the pain I caused and nothing is worth doing that to you again. I hurt myself too. I don't ever want either one of us to go through this again.

I think we're getting there.


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

Posts: 677 | Registered: Jun 2012
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52682 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. You have some good stuff going on lately. It so nice to hear.


BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2636 | Registered: Aug 2012
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mr. Flatlined is 'getting it'.

Happy for both of you!


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38093 | Registered: Sep 2007
shatteredheart7
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Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
Flatlined123
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Member # 35862
Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know, right Chicho? It's been so nice to see and hear the things from him. I feel like the hard work is finally paying off.


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

Posts: 677 | Registered: Jun 2012
emotionalgirl
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Member # 40184
Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

Posts: 373 | Registered: Aug 2013
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome!


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 11:31 PM, September 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We had the very same conversation this afternoon. We had stopped for a picnic in the mountains on our way home from celebrating our 25th anniversary. I chose a beautiful spot over looking the glacier river. We had champagne, cheese, grapes......and just us. My H said that this whole event has opened his eyes so wide. So much was unknown to him before the A. He didn't know how much I was missing our marriage and how much pain I was carrying. My courage and strength have made him see how horribly wrong he had been. He too said he will never hurt me that way again....he had no idea that this much hurt could be endured. He also said he is a very lucky man that I have wanted to put this behind us. It was a beautiful moment for me. I felt all my hard work had finally rewarded me.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Flatlined123
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Member # 35862
Default  Posted: 4:52 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T, I'm so glad for you both.

It's nice to have a little peace in our lives.


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

Posts: 677 | Registered: Jun 2012
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1763 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Flat.....it is nice that we are both seeing the product of all of our hard work. I don't care if you are a BS or a WS, getting to positive is wonderful.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
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