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User Topic: How did you pick your user name?
Crumbled324
♂ Member
Member # 33902
Default  Posted: 4:30 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My life, and the date it happened. Not very original I'm afraid.


BH: 46
fWW: 45
Beautiful 8 year old daughter
Married 22 years, Together 28 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling

Posts: 87 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Michigan
LAFA
♂ Member
Member # 31868
Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A look back at the first tjme I was faced with infidelity. Long Ago, Far Away.


When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.

Posts: 184 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Hawaii
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suspect "ICannotFuckingBelieveThis" was rejected. I remember trying several before this one.

I was in so much shock and rage when I joined I'm amazed my name isn't BallsInABlender.

I don't love it but it is good to be reminded of where I was then and how far I've come now. I'd love to be able to change our names though. Not that I can think of one.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5619 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
confused615
♀ Member
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im boring.

I was confused..and we were married on June 15.

Still married..no longer confused.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7743 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
sadcat
♀ Member
Member # 8637
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well I was sad and I like cats....

Pretty simple really. I even forgot to capitalize the "S"


I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


Posts: 13260 | Registered: Oct 2005 | From: GA
cantaccept
♀ Member
Member # 37451
Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe it was very soon after dday, maybe within days?

I was in shock, I couldn't accept that this was possible.

I remember thinking, "h would not do this, this can't be real"

It just popped into my head.

Everytime I type it I remember how I felt then...

Kind of wish I could change it now. Maybe to, never mind, it would probably be rejected!


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divor


Posts: 1437 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
trappe25
♀ New Member
Member # 38513
Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is so ridiculous.

I type really really fast and HATE to edit.

So being that I am trapped financially and that we had been together for 25 years it was supposed to be Trapped25, but because I didn't edit it is Trappe25....uggh


Posts: 39 | Registered: Feb 2013
HurtButHopeful?
♀ Member
Member # 25144
Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H and I had just spent a week together at a hotel together to begin R, and and I became hopeful but was still deeply hurt. Others already had variations of HurtButHopeful, so I added a *?* to mine, since I was tentative whether Mr. HBH had it in him to endure the rollercoaster ride of R.

HBH


Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!

Posts: 1716 | Registered: Aug 2009
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

c~letter of my first name
me
go

Of course, "see me go" as the double meaning, and yes, he did see me go.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4187 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Peaches2013
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Member # 40852
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't want a user name associated with anything else I do. So I picked something I like and the year.

Plus, if this is google-able, I suspect you're going to get about 25 million fruit hits before you ever get to a user name.


Me: BS
Him: WH ONS/short EA
Married 11 years
Together 15 years
2 children

Posts: 64 | Registered: Oct 2013
Tripletrouble
♀ Member
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump! 41000 to go...


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
ninebark
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Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well during the A I was working for a landscape company, one of my jobs was plants stock manager.

I chose Ninebark because it is a very hardy plant that can withstand extreme situations and has a bark that peels off to reveal something new and wonderful underneath. So I feel like a Ninebark.


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
karmahappens
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Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is easy...

When I got here I was still consumed with the karma bus hitting the OW.

I now know I was way off. I intend to get my membership so I can change it, just not sure to what.

I am so not creative.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3850 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
2ndbest
♀ Member
Member # 32446
Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was exactly the way I felt at the time. As though I had been merely filling in for the one he really wanted


In limbo
Il ne faut pas toucher aux idoles: la dorure en reste aux mains. - Flaubert



Posts: 145 | Registered: Jun 2011
simplydevastated
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Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wanted something that summed up how I felt in a nutshell. Simplydevastated seemed perfect.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
No12turn2
♂ Member
Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I picked mine because I felt like I didn't have anyone who understood what I wanted with our marriage. All of my family and friends want me to just pack her shit and tell her to kick rocks. Sucks when you have plenty of family around and you feel like you have no one to turn to (No12turn2)

[This message edited by No12turn2 at 2:09 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
chipmunk41
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Member # 40694
Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 41 and the day I registered my account I was looking out the window and saw a chipmunk run by...


wake me up when it's over...

Posts: 47 | Registered: Sep 2013
Dark Inertia
Member
Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is from the Bhagavad Gita. I like the combination of the words, although it has a negative meaning.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1293 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Tred
♂ Member
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was looking out the window and saw a chipmunk run by...

Glad I didn't use that methodology. 2DogsScrewing would be pretty awkward


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 4028 | Registered: Dec 2011
Marathonwaseasy
♀ Member
Member # 40674
Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I ran my first marathon in May during his A. That was a sinch compared to getting out of bed every morning since dday


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
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