Topic: How did you pick your user name?
Member # 33902
| Posted: 4:30 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013|
My life, and the date it happened. Not very original I'm afraid.
Beautiful 7 year old daughter
Married 21 years, Together 27 - High School Sweethearts
Posts: 84 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Michigan
Member # 31868
| Posted: 10:45 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013|
A look back at the first tjme I was faced with infidelity. Long Ago, Far Away.
When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.
Posts: 146 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Hawaii
Member # 35229
| Posted: 6:05 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013|
I suspect "ICannotFuckingBelieveThis" was rejected. I remember trying several before this one.
I was in so much shock and rage when I joined I'm amazed my name isn't BallsInABlender.
I don't love it but it is good to be reminded of where I was then and how far I've come now. I'd love to be able to change our names though. Not that I can think of one.
Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."
Posts: 4557 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 30826
| Posted: 10:46 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013|
I was confused..and we were married on June 15.
Still married..no longer confused.
M: June 2001
Status: R? I don't know..ask me tomorrow..it changes rapidly.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 6655 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 8637
| Posted: 6:32 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013|
well I was sad and I like cats....
Pretty simple really. I even forgot to capitalize the "S"
I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.
If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.
Posts: 13185 | Registered: Oct 2005 | From: GA
Member # 37451
| Posted: 9:29 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013|
I believe it was very soon after dday, maybe within days?
I was in shock, I couldn't accept that this was possible.
I remember thinking, "h would not do this, this can't be real"
It just popped into my head.
Everytime I type it I remember how I felt then...
Kind of wish I could change it now. Maybe to, never mind, it would probably be rejected!
Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
attempted R, it was all a lie
Posts: 1095 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
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Member # 38513
| Posted: 9:54 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013|
Mine is so ridiculous.
I type really really fast and HATE to edit.
So being that I am trapped financially and that we had been together for 25 years it was supposed to be Trapped25, but because I didn't edit it is Trappe25....uggh
Posts: 27 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 25144
| Posted: 9:56 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013|
H and I had just spent a week together at a hotel together to begin R, and and I became hopeful but was still deeply hurt. Others already had variations of HurtButHopeful, so I added a *?* to mine, since I was tentative whether Mr. HBH had it in him to endure the rollercoaster ride of R.
Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!
Posts: 1716 | Registered: Aug 2009
Member # 30346
| Posted: 11:55 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013|
c~letter of my first name
Of course, "see me go" as the double meaning, and yes, he did see me go.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, separated 3 years, together 17
Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings"
Posts: 3615 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 40852
| Posted: 4:00 PM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013|
I didn't want a user name associated with anything else I do. So I picked something I like and the year.
Plus, if this is google-able, I suspect you're going to get about 25 million fruit hits before you ever get to a user name.
Him: WH ONS/short EA
Married 11 years
Together 15 years
Posts: 64 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 39169
| Posted: 3:19 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013|
Bump! 41000 to go...
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.
Posts: 553 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
Member # 24534
| Posted: 8:59 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
Well during the A I was working for a landscape company, one of my jobs was plants stock manager.
I chose Ninebark because it is a very hardy plant that can withstand extreme situations and has a bark that peels off to reveal something new and wonderful underneath. So I feel like a Ninebark.
BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.
Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 35846
| Posted: 11:13 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
Mine is easy...
When I got here I was still consumed with the karma bus hitting the OW.
I now know I was way off. I intend to get my membership so I can change it, just not sure to what.
I am so not creative.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
We have R'd
Posts: 3248 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 32446
| Posted: 1:56 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
It was exactly the way I felt at the time. As though I had been merely filling in for the one he really wanted
Il ne faut pas toucher aux idoles: la dorure en reste aux mains. - Flaubert
Posts: 145 | Registered: Jun 2011
Member # 25001
| Posted: 1:57 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
I wanted something that summed up how I felt in a nutshell. Simplydevastated seemed perfect.
Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day's, listed in profile)
Posts: 5375 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 40996
| Posted: 2:08 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
I picked mine because I felt like I didn't have anyone who understood what I wanted with our marriage. All of my family and friends want me to just pack her shit and tell her to kick rocks. Sucks when you have plenty of family around and you feel like you have no one to turn to (No12turn2)
[This message edited by No12turn2 at 2:09 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: D train.
Knowing the details doesn't always make you feel satisfied. In my case, it just made me want to burn a perfectly good couch!
Posts: 341 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
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Member # 40694
| Posted: 2:16 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
I am 41 and the day I registered my account I was looking out the window and saw a chipmunk run by...
wake me up when it's over...
Posts: 45 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 30727
| Posted: 2:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
It is from the Bhagavad Gita. I like the combination of the words, although it has a negative meaning.
"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."
Posts: 1102 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Member # 34086
| Posted: 2:20 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
I was looking out the window and saw a chipmunk run by...
Glad I didn't use that methodology. 2DogsScrewing would be pretty awkward
Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
Posts: 3303 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 40674
| Posted: 2:24 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
I ran my first marathon in May during his A. That was a sinch compared to getting out of bed every morning since dday
Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...
"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."
Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
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