Topic: How did you pick your user name?
Member # 37575
| Posted: 6:50 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
Two months before dday, June 2012, my dad passed away and left me his black jeep. That summer my amazing son took it home to fix it up. When I picked it up in Oct. it was transformed into a hot pink Barbie Jeep and pretty much the only thing that made me smile in 2012. It feels like my dad sent me a gift to help me deal with this mess.
I don't normally swear, but my dad sure did, so when I am driving the Jeep I just feel totally justified in letting it all come out. I might look like a nice old lady driving along, but I sometimes am just swearing up a storm, Jeep therapy?! It cheers me up.
I found SI shortly after picking it up and it felt like the pink Jeep was the only thing that wasn't messed up in my life, so I was clinging to it for dear life!
Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein
Posts: 494 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
Member # 38384
| Posted: 7:32 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
Part of my name, plus my age at the time. I didn't want to be negative with it but I sure as heck didn't feel positive when I registered so this worked for me.
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 2481 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Member # 35813
| Posted: 10:43 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
My username came about because I got "burned" by my ex H, and I am Canadian (canuck) and I have dabbled in the emergency services for years as a firefighter / EMT. No longer do it full time as I changed career directions but its still who I am, a part of me I felt was lost in my relationship years.
Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!
"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"
Posts: 254 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Alberta
Member # 29126
| Posted: 11:07 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013|
Well, I figured if my wife could have her mid-life crisis, then I'd have mine -- so I went out and found a 21 year old German. She's beautiful, with amazing curves, and she's a lot racier than my wife :)
If I want recovery, then I must allow for it to actually happen.
Is it possible that I actually do have all the truth now?
me - husband A46
her - wife A42
Married 17 years
D-Day August 2, 2009
3 kids 11, 13, and 15
Posts: 276 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 40633
| Posted: 1:27 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Thessaly is the homeland of Achilles in Greek Mythology. And I just happen to know another guy with a fatal weakness.
Me: BW, 30
Him: WH, 36
7 years of double-digit ONS, LTA, hookers - the works.
First found out: August 20, 2013
Whole truth: January 1, 2014
Posts: 164 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 40592
| Posted: 6:26 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Well, because after I found out about the infidelity I was dropped like a cold bag of sick and got.... No Answers!
And I like the number 37, although no relevance
Live without pretending
Love without depending
Listen without defending
Speak without offending
Posts: 122 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: England
Member # 38660
| Posted: 9:46 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
My H's nickname for the OW was princess. He actually had her saved in his phone under that name. So of course, I am noprincess. And you know what? I'm not a princess in any way. I'm scrappy and tough and self-reliant. Last week, I ordered a drain pump for my washer from ebay and fixed the damn thing myself. Yeah, I'm noprincess.
"Never, never, never give up." - Winston Churchill
Posts: 138 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 37879
| Posted: 10:01 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Meet Cinnamon. plus its a play off the Neil Young song.
(eta because the first image didn't appear)
[This message edited by cinnamongurl at 10:05 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)]
Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. Many ddays, last one late 8/12 "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos
Posts: 514 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart.
Member # 41157
| Posted: 10:12 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Married young 17 years ago. My W and I were each other's first. She is still my only. That meant something to me, guess not to her. Reminded me of an old song, "One-owner heart"
Posts: 205 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 30631
| Posted: 10:18 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Four Kids, forever faithful.
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
Posts: 887 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
Member # 40981
| Posted: 10:52 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I wanted something that's like no other username I've ever had. I thought this was appropriate, because it's the nickname for a world champion ice dancing team, Meryl Davis and Charlie White (therefore, they are sometimes referred to as 'marlie') whom I hope will win the Olympic gold medal in 2014 in Sochi over their rivals, Tessa Virtue and Scott Moir (also sometimes called "Voir" by skating fans).
I'm a pretty rabid skating fan and since Virtue and Moir already won gold in 2010, I am rooting for Davis and White this time. Do yourself a favor and youtube their "Bollywood" performance from Vancouver 2010 Olympics. You'll see why I'm a fan!
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!
Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 38141
| Posted: 11:54 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I was stunned in 2012 ---
I had suspicions/questions in 2010/2011 but 2012 was confirmation.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.
Posts: 477 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 36408
| Posted: 12:03 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I am what I am, I feel sometimes that I will never be wise, having been fooled for what seems like forever. I am getting older though!
Me BS 54
Married 34 years
2 grown sons
2 PA ? EA's didn't develop due to discovery
Posts: 85 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest USA
Member # 41150
| Posted: 12:20 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
We were everyone's "perfect couple". Inseparable.
Seldom was one of our names spoken without the other. It was always "Jim and XXX"
Looks like now it's Just Jim.
[This message edited by justjim at 12:21 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]
Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.
Posts: 294 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 8408
| Posted: 12:35 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Because the stuff I was going through felt like a wild ride, like a roller coaster. And I hate roller coasters.
Posts: 2143 | Registered: Oct 2005 | From: SoCal
♀ New Member
Member # 40319
| Posted: 2:47 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I wanted something more positive even when I feel down and negative most of the time. A friend of mine, P., contracted colon cancer in her 30s. She was raising 3 young children ad had a very devoted husband. The treatment just wasn't working well and it was just a matter of time. Another friend of ours, T., saw her last driving down the street and as P. drive by she her hand under her chin and pointed to T. to keep her chin up. I always think of her in hard times that if P. could keep her chin up through all that, then somehow I can find a way to keep mine up too.
Posts: 24 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 40715
| Posted: 3:37 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I suppose 'Truly' just sums it up. For me it has always been about the truth; honesty and integrity are, and always have been, important to me.
Also, I am 'Truly Scrumptious' anyone remember that character...? Yikes!
and I oscillate between being any number of wonderful Trulys and I own them all!sometimes I am:
Truly pissed off
Truly hurt etc etc
and he is...
Truly stupid! lol
Gosh, I needed a chuckle today so for that I truly thank you x
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 40762
| Posted: 3:39 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I was in a daze and when I thought of how crappy this year has been starting in January with an accident my dad was in, going on down to Dday (me being sick, my mom being sick, etc...on and on and on) it was like "this just freaking tops it off." That and I was thinking of alcohol and "top 'er off" but I don't even drink. I wanted to pick it up but thanks to some allergies it would probably kill me faster than others.
BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month
Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
Member # 33622
| Posted: 4:12 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
When I finally booted him out and said that he couldn't live here with me and the kids if he was going to be involved in an EA/PA and do nothing to change...well, I'd grown a pair of balls.
BS - me, 38, WH - 40
Kidlets 6 and 8
DD1 - I love you but... Jan 2010
DD2 - 5 Jan 2011, booted him out
R attempted April 2011, False R
DD3 - 5 Sept 2011, booted him out again
Dec 2011 - living together as a family
Jan 2014 - separated...AGAIN!
Posts: 162 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: UK
Member # 31722
| Posted: 4:36 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I didn't find SI for 2 yrs after d-day.
So I was still suspicious!
And I might just be this way for quite a while!
(that and I don't have a creative bone in my body )
Posts: 1306 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
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